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My Wife Would Say My Worst Habit Is That I'm Not Good At Dropping Subjects. If Something Bothers Me, I'll Bring It Up Endlessly And Relentlessly. I Think It's A Search For Clarity, But She Uses Different Words.

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My Wife Would Say

Paul Reiser

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My Wife Would Say My Worst Habit Is That I'm Not Good At Dropping Subjects. If Something Bothers Me, I'll Bring It Up Endlessly And Relentlessly. I Think It's A Search For Clarity, But She Uses Different Words.

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Exclamation Points

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