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Mindful Parenting Is The Hardest Job On The Planet, But It's Also One That Has The Potential For The Deepest Kinds Of Satisfactions Over The Life Span, And The Greatest Feelings Of Interconnectedness And Community And Belonging.

-Jon Kabat-Zinn

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Mindful Parenting Is The

Jon Kabat-Zinn

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Mindful Parenting Is The Hardest Job On The Planet, But It's Also One That Has The Potential For The Deepest Kinds Of Satisfactions Over The Life Span, And The Greatest Feelings Of Interconnectedness And Community And Belonging.

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We Must Be Willing To Encounter Darkness And Despair When They Come Up And Face Them, Over And Over Again If Need Be, Without Running Away Or Numbing Ourselves In The Thousands Of Ways We Conjure Up To Avoid The Unavoidable.

When Your Alarm Goes Off And You Jump Out Of Bed, What Is The Nature Of The Mind In That Moment? Are You Already Like, "oh My God," Your Calendar Pops Into Your Mind And You're Driven Already, Or Can You Take A Moment And Just Lie In Bed And Just Feel Your Body Breathing. And Remember, "oh Yeah, Brand New Day And I'm Still Alive." So, I Get Out Of Bed With Awareness, Brush My Teeth With Awareness. When You're In The Shower Next Time Check And See If You're In The Shower.

All The Suffering, Stress, And Addiction Comes From Not Realizing You Already Are What You Are Looking For.

Perhaps Ultimately, Spiritual Simply Means Experiencing Wholeness And Interconnectedness Directly, A Seeing That Individuality And The Totality Are Interwoven, That Nothing Is Separate Or Extraneous. If You See In This Way, Then Everything Becomes Spiritual In Its Deepest Sense. Doing Science Is Spiritual. So Is Washing The Dishes.

Allow Your Attention To Gently Alight On Your Belly, As If You Were Coming Upon A Shy Animal Sunning Itself On A Tree Stump In A Clearing In The Forest. Feel Your Belly Rise Or Expand Gently On The Inbreath, And Fall Or Recede On The Outbreath.

Life On Earth Is A Whole, Yet It Expresses Itself In Unique Time-bound Bodies, Microscopic Or Visible, Plant Or Animal, Extinct Or Living. So There Can Be No One Place To Be. There Can Be No One Way To Be, No One Way To Practice, No One Way To Learn, No One Way To Love, No One Way To Grow Or To Heal, No One Way To Live, No One Way To Feel, No One Thing To Know Or Be Known. The Particulars Count.

You Could Think Of Mindfulness As Wise And Affectionate Attention.

Meditation Is Simply About Being Yourself And Know About Who That Is.

Look At Other People And Ask Yourself If You Are Really Seeing Them Or Just Your Thoughts About Them.... Without Knowing It, We Are Coloring Everything, Putting Our Spin On It All.

But You Cannot Have Harmony Without A Commitment To Ethical Behavior. It's The Fence That Keeps Out The Goats That Will Eat All The Young Shoots In Your Garden.

Buckminster Fuller Himself Was Fond Of Stating That What Seems To Be Happening At The Moment Is Never The Full Story Of What Is Really Going On. He Liked To Point Out That For The Honey Bee, It Is The Honey That Is Important. But The Bee Is At The Same Time Nature's Vehicle For Carrying Out Cross-pollination Of The Flowers. Interconnectedness Is A Fundamental Principle Of Nature. Nothing Is Isolated. Each Event Connects With Others.

It Is A Form Of Violence, To Not See A Being For Who He Or She Really Is. You Think, "oh, That's My Son." But The Lens, "my Son," Completely Obliterates The Multi- Dimensions Of That Being. Maybe You Only See Your Disappointments In That Child, Or You Aspirations For That Child, But That's Not The Child.

Patience Is A Form Of Wisdom. It Demonstrates That We Understand And Accept The Fact That Sometimes Things Must Unfold In Their Own Time.

Sometimes Shutting Off The Sound On The Television Can Allow You To Actually Watch The Game And Take It In In An Entirely Different And More Direct Way - A First-order, First-person Experience - Rather Than Filtered Through The Mind Of Another.

Mindfulness Is Not About Getting Anywhere Else.

Can You Question Who You Are? And Are You Comfortable With Not Knowing?

In Asian Languages, The Word For Mind And The Word For Heart Are The Same Word.

Perhaps The Most "spiritual" Thing Any Of Us Can Do Is Simply To Look Through Our Own Eyes, See With Eyes Of Wholeness, And Act With Integrity And Kindness.

The Zen People From Ancient China, "when You're Walking, Just Walk." It Turns Out To Be The Hardest Thing.

It’s Interesting To Look At Your Children As Line-in Zen Masters Who Can Put Their Finger On Places Where You’re Resistant, Or Thinking Narrowly, In Ways Noone Else Can. You Can Either Lose Your Mind And Your Authenticity In The Process Of Reacting To All That Stuff, Or You Can Use It As The Perfect Opportunity To Grow And Nourish Your Children By Attending To What Is Deepest And Best In Them And In Yourself.

Note That This Journey Is Uniquely Yours, No One Else's. So The Path Has To Be Your Own. You Cannot Imitate Somebody Else's Journey And Still Be True To Yourself. Are You Prepared To Honor Your Uniqueness In This Way?

Mindful Parenting Is The Hardest Job On The Planet, But It's Also One That Has The Potential For The Deepest Kinds Of Satisfactions Over The Life Span, And The Greatest Feelings Of Interconnectedness And Community And Belonging.

Even Before Smart Phones And The Internet, We Had Many Ways To Distract Our Selves. Now That's Compounded By A Factor Of Trillions.

We Call The Effort To Cultivate Our Ability To Be In The Present Moment ‘practice’ Or ‘meditation Practice.’

Meditation Practice

When You Pay Attention To Boredom It Gets Unbelievably Interesting.

Meditation Is Not About Feeling A Certain Way. It's About Feeling The Way You Feel.

Breathing Is Central To Every Aspect Of Meditation Training. It's A Wonderful Place To Focus In Training The Mind To Be Calm And Concentrated.

There Are A Lot Of Different Ways To Talk About Mindfulness, But What It Really Means Is Awareness.

From The Perspective Of Meditation, Every State Is A Special State, Every Moment A Special Moment.

When We Let Go Of Wanting Something Else To Happen In This Moment, We Are Taking A Profound Step Toward Being Able To Encounter What Is Here Now. If We Hope To Go Anywhere Or Develop Ourselves In Any Way, We Can Only Step From Where We Are Standing. If We Don't Really Know Where We Are Standing—a Knowing That Comes Directly From The Cultivation Of Mindfulness—we May Only Go In Circles, For All Our Efforts And Expectations. So, In Meditation Practice, The Best Way To Get Somewhere Is To Let Go Of Trying To Get Anywhere At All.

Peace Is Something That We Can Bring About If We Can Actually Learn To Wake Up A Bit More As Individuals And A Lot More As A Species; If We Can Learn To Be Fully What We Actually Already Are; To Reside In The Inherent Potential Of What Is Possible For Us, Being Human.

Stillness, Insight, And Wisdom Arise Only When We Can Settle Into Being Complete In This Moment, Without Having To Seek Or Hold On To Or Reject Anything.

Any Really Good Scientist Is As Much An Artist As A Scientist. All The Interesting Stuff Is Found On The Edge Between Knowing And Not Knowing. I Know That Sounds Like A Meditation Teacher Speaking, But When You're In The Laboratory, Or You're Theorizing About Physics, You Need To Know What You Know, But If You Can't Get Out From Under That, You Won't Be Able To Make That Insightful, First-time Connection That Nobody Else Has Seen Before.

From The Point Of View Of The Meditative Traditions The Entire Society Is Suffering From Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.

When Experience Is Viewed In A Certain Way, It Presents Nothing But Doorways Into The Soul.

When You're Walking, Just Walk. When You're Eating, Just Eat. Not In Front Of The Tv, Not With The Newspaper. It Turns Out, That's Huge.

Nourishing The Soul Is The Process Of Drinking At The Life Stream, Coming Back To One's True Self, Embracing The Whole Of One's Experience - Good, Bad, Or Ugly; Painful Or Exalted; Dull Or Boring.

Mindfulness Is About Love And Loving Life. When You Cultivate This Love, It Gives You Clarity And Compassion For Life, And Your Actions Happen In Accordance With That.

You Can Bring Together The Body's Various Systems To Fine Tune The Body And Mind In Order To Navigate Life's Ups And Downs In A Way That Minimizes Stress And Maximizes Well-being And Satisfaction.

Meditation Means Learning How To Get Out Of This Current, Sit By Its Bank And Listen To It, Learn From It, And Then Use Its Energies To Guide Us.

The Real Meditation Is How You Live Your Life.

Awareness Is Not The Same As Thought. It Lies Beyond Thinking, Although It Makes No Use Of Thinking, Honoring It's Value And It's Power. Awareness Is More Like A Vessel Which Can Hold And Contain Our Thinking, Helping Us To See And Know Our Thought As Thought Rather Than Getting Caught Up In Them As Reality.

Mindfulness Is A Way To Rebalance Ourselves. Instead Of Being Lost In Thought, Or Caught Up In Emotional Upheaval, We Can Tip The Scale In The Direction Of Greater Equanimity, Clarity, Wisdom, And Self-compassion By Actually Learning How To Inhabit That Other Dimension Of Our Being.

You Might Be Tempted To Avoid The Messiness Of Daily Living For The Tranquility Of Stillness And Peacefulness. This Of Course Would Be An Attachment To Stillness, And Like Any Strong Attachment, It Leads To Delusion. It Arrests Development And Short-circuits The Cultivation Of Wisdom.

For Men And Women Alike, This Journey Is A The Trajectory Between Birth And Death, A Human Life Lived. No One Escapes The Adventure. We Only Work With It Differently.

Another Way To Look At Meditation Is To View Thinking Itself As A Waterfall, A Cascading Of Thought. In Cultivating Mindfulness, We Are Going Beyond Or Behind Our Thinking, Much The Way You Might Find A Vantage Point In A Cave Or Depression In The Rock Behind A Waterfall. We Still See And Hear The Water, But We Are Out Of The Torrent.

Non-doing Has Nothing To Do With Being Indolent Or Passive. Quite The Contrary. It Takes Great Courage And Energy To Cultivate Non-doing, Both In Stillness And In Activity. Nor Is It Easy To Make A Special Time For Non-doing And To Keep At It In The Face Of Everything In Our Lives Which Needs To Be Done.

Mindfulness Is About Love And Loving Life. When You Cultivate This Love, It Gives You Clarity And Compassion For Life, And Your Actions Happen In Accordance With That. All Ethics And Morality, And A Sense Of Interconnectedness, Come Out Of The Act Of Paying Attention.

Voluntary Simplicity Means Going Fewer Places In One Day Rather Than More, Seeing Less So I Can See More, Doing Less So I Can Do More, Acquiring Less So I Can Have More.

Perhaps We Just Need Little Reminders From Time To Time That We Are Already Dignified, Deserving, Worthy. Sometimes We Don't Feel That Way Because Of The Wounds And The Scars We Carry From The Past Or Because Of The Uncertainty Of The Future. It Is Doubtful That We Came To Feel Undeserving On Our Own. We Were Helped To Feel Unworthy. We Were Taught It In A Thousand Ways When We Were Little, And We Learned Our Lessons Well.

Mindfulness Means Moment-to-moment, Non-judgmental Awareness. It Is Cultivated By Refining Our Capacity To Pay Attention, Intentionally, In The Present Moment, And Then Sustaining That Attention Over Time As Best We Can. In The Process, We Become More In Touch With Our Life As It Is Unfolding.

Generosity Is Another Quality Which, Like Patience, Letting Go, Non-judging, And Trust, Provides A Solid Foundation For Mindfulness Practice.

People Say Things That Get You Ramped Up. I Find Myself, As My Body Clenches Up When Somebody Says Something That I Know Is Wrong Or I Wanna Catch Them In A Lie Or Whatever, That Just, "calm Down. When It's Your Turn, You Make Your Point."

Mindfulness Is So Powerful That The Fact That It Comes Out Of Buddhism Is Irrelevant.

If We Are Honest With Ourselves, Most Of Us Will Have To Admit That We Live Out Our Lives In An Ocean Of Fear.

Generosity Is Another Quality Which, Like Patience, Letting Go, Non-judging, And Trust, Provides A Solid Foundation For Mindfulness Practice. You Might Experiment With Using The Cultivation Of Generosity As A Vehicle For Deep Self-observation And Inquiry As Well As An Exercise In Giving. A Good Place To Start Is With Yourself. See If You Can Give Yourself Gifts That May Be True Blessings, Such As Self-acceptance, Or Some Time Each Day With No Purpose. Practice Feeling Deserving Enough To Accept These Gifts Without Obligation-to Simply Receive From Yourself, And From The Universe.

Meditation Is Really A Non-doing. It Is The Only Human Endeavor I Know Of Being Where You Already Are.

The Real Meditative Practice Is To Open Up To The Full Range Of What Happens In Life. And Parenting Is A Fantastic Arena For Doing That Kind Of Spiritual Training. It's As Much A Potential Door Into Enlightenment As Anything Else.

In Its Outward Manifestation, Meditation Appears To Involve Either Stopping, By Parking The Body In A Stillness That Suspends Activity, Or Giving Oneself Over To Flowing Movement. In Either Case, It Is An Embodiment Of Wise Attention, An Inward Gesture Undertaken For The Most Part In Silence, A Shift From Doing To Simply Being. It Is An Act That May At First Seem Artificial But That We Soon Discover, If We Keep At It, Is Ultimately One Of Pure Love For The Life Unfolding Within Us And Around Us.

Mindfulness Practice Means That We Commit Fully In Each Moment To Be Present; Inviting Ourselves To Interface With This Moment In Full Awareness, With The Intention To Embody As Best We Can An Orientation Of Calmness, Mindfulness, And Equanimity Right Here And Right Now.

Healing Is A Coming To Terms With Things As They Are, Rather Than Struggling To Force Them To Be As They Once Were, Or As We Would Like Them To Be, To Feel Secure Or To Have What We Sometimes Think Of As Our Own Way.

Meditation Is Like Farming... The Right Soil Is Required To Grow Anything, Nothing Will Grow If The Soil Is Polluted By Striving Or Pushing Too Hard.

As Long As You Are Breathing, There Is More Right With You Than There Is Wrong, No Matter How Ill Or How Hopeless You May Feel. But If You Hope To Mobilize Your Inner Capacities For Growth And For Healing And To Take Charge In Your Life On A New Level, A Certain Kind Of Effort And Energy On Your Part Will Be Required.... It Will Take Conscious Effort On Your Part To Move In A Direction Of Healing And Inner Peace. This Means Learning To Work With The Very Stress And Pain That Is Causing You To Suffer.

A Lot Of Harm Has Come In All Eras From People Attached To One View Of Spiritual “truth.”

There Are Certain Ways In Which I Cultivate Awareness, Both Through Mindful Yoga And Taking Care Of My Body And Taking Time To Actually Drop As Deeply As Possible Into Stillness, Into Whatever Is Unfolding In The Present Moment.

We Take Care Of The Future Best By Taking Care Of The Present Now.

Most People Think That To Meditate, I Should Feel A Particular Special Something, And If I Don't, Then I Must Be Doing Something Wrong.

Writing Can Be An Incredible Mindfulness Practice.

The Real Meditation Practice Is How We Live Our Lives From Moment To Moment To Moment.

Meditation Practice

If We Hope To Go Anywhere Or Develop Ourselves In Any Way, We Can Only Step From Where We Are Standing. If We Don't Really Know Where We Are Standing... We May Only Go In Circles.

Meditation Is The Only Intentional, Systematic Human Activity Which At Bottom Is About Not Trying To Improve Yourself Or Get Anywhere Else, But Simply To Realize Where You Already Are.

Meditation Practice

To Drop Into Being Means To Recognize Your Interconnectedness With All Life, And With Being Itself. Your Very Nature Is Being Part Of Larger And Larger Spheres Of Wholeness.

There Is Just This Moment. We Are Not Trying To Improve Or To Get Anywhere Else.

Wherever You Go, There You Are. Whatever You Wind Up Doing, That's What You've Wound Up Doing. Whatever You Are Thinking Right Now, That's What's On Your Mind. Whatever Has Happened To You, It Has Already Happened. The Important Question Is, "how Are You Going To Handle It?" .... Like It Or Not, This Moment Is All We Really Have To Work With.

Just Stopping, Is A Radical Act Of Sanity And Love.

Living In A Chronic State Of Unawareness Can Cause Us To Miss Much Of What Is Most Beautiful And Meaningful In Our Lives.

This Is Something Called "walking Meditation." The Goal Is To Learn To Be Aware Of Each And Every Movement And Feeling. I Know It Seems Ridiculous, But It Does Change The Way You Experience Walking.

My Father Was A World-class Scientist And My Mother Was A Prolific Painter. I Could See That My Parents Had Completely Different Ways Of Knowing And Understanding The World, And Relating To It. My Father Approached Things Through Scientific Inquiry And Exploration, While My Mother Experienced Things Through Her Emotions And Senses.

"what Is My Job On The Planet?" Is One Question We Might Do Well To Ask Ourselves Over And Over Again. Otherwise, We May Wind Up Doing Somebody Else's Job And Not Even Know It. And What's More, That Somebody Else Might Be A Figment Of Our Own Imagination, And Maybe A Prisoner Of It As Well.

Discipline Provides A Constancy Which Is Independent Of What Kind Of Day You Had Yesterday And What Kind Of Day You Anticipate Today.

The Awareness Is Not Part Of The Darkness Or The Pain; It Holds The Pain, And Knows It, So It Has To Be More Fundamental, And Closer To What Is Healthy And Strong And Golden Within You.

Mindfulness Is About Being Fully Awake In Our Lives. It Is About Perceiving The Exquisite Vividness Of Each Moment. We Also Gain Immediate Access To Our Own Powerful Inner Resources For Insight, Transformation, And Healing.

Practice Moment To Moment Non-judgemental Awareness.

Most Of The Time, If You're Not Really Paying Attention, You're Someplace Else. So Your Child Might Say, "daddy, I Want This," And You Might Say, "just A Minute, I'm Busy." Now That's No Big Deal-we All Get Busy, And Kids Frequently Ask For Attention. But Over Your Child's Entire Youth, You May Have An Enormous Number Of Such Moments To Be Really, Fully Present, But Because You Thought You Were Busy, You Didn't See The Opportunities These Moments Presented. . . . People Carry Around An Enormous Amount Of Grief Because They Missed The Little Things.

You Can't Stop The Waves, But You Can Learn To Surf.

The Importance Of The Development Of The Emotional Body Is Hardly Recognized Today. We Are Pretty Much Left To Our Own Devices To Come To Full Adulthood, Whether Man Or Woman. Our Elders May Have Become So Denatured Themselves From A Lack Of Such Nurturance That There Is No Longer A Collective Knowledge Of How To Guide The Awakening Emotional Vitality And Authenticity Of Our Young People, Our Children. Mindfulness May Contribute To A Reawakening Of This Ancient Wisdom In Ourselves And In Others.

Just Watch This Moment, Without Trying To Change It At All. What Is Happening? What Do You Feel? What Do You See? What Do You Hear?

You Make Problem, You Have Problem

In Letting Go Of Wanting Something Special To Occur, Maybe We Can Realize That Something Special Is Already Occurring.

Maybe The Fear Is That We Are Less Than We Think We Are, When The Actuality Of It Is That We Are Much Much More.

Societal Transformation Isn't Going To Happen In One Month, One Year, Or Even One Lifetime. But We See It Happen Person By Person In Front Of Us, And We Don't Have To Worry About The Future If We're Taking Care Of The Present. In Some Sense, That's The Best Insurance Policy We Can Have.

One Way To Look At Meditation Is As A Kind Of Intrapsychic Technology That's Been Developed Over Thousands Of Years By Traditions That Know A Lot About The Mind/body Connection.

I Thought It Was A Stroke Of Genius That Hans Selye Used The Word Stress, Because It's True That If You Don't Know How To Be In Wise Relationship To Life, Certain Health Consequences Are Bound To Happen. If You Stand Up 12 Hours A Day On An Assembly Line, Or Constantly Tell Yourself Life Is Not Worth Living, The Body Will Respond In Certain Somewhat Predictable Ways.

Dying Without Actually Fully Living, Without Waking Up To Our Lives While We Have The Chance, Is An Ongoing And Significant Risk.

Mindfulness Means Being Awake. It Means Knowing What You Are Doing.

The Only Time That Any Of Us Have To Grow Or Change Or Feel Or Learn Anything Is In The Present Moment. But We're Continually Missing Our Present Moments, Almost Willfully, By Not Paying Attention.

Mindfulness Means Paying Attention In A Particular Way: On Purpose, In The Present Moment, And Non-judgmentally.

In Asian Languages, The Word For Mind And The Word For Heart Are Same. So If You’re Not Hearing Mindfulness In Some Deep Way As Heartfulness, You’re Not Really Understanding It. Compassion And Kindness Towards Oneself Are Intrinsically Woven Into It. You Could Think Of Mindfulness As Wise And Affectionate Attention.

But When We Start To Focus In On What Our Own Mind Is Up To, For Instance, It Is Not Unusual To Quickly Go Unconscious Again, To Fall Back Into An Automatic-pilot Mode Of Unawareness. These Lapses In Awareness Are Frequently Caused By An Eddy Of Dissatisfaction With What We Are Seeing Or Feeling In That Moment, Out Of Which Springs A Desire For Something To Be Different, For Things To Change.

Once You Have Established Yourself As A Center Of Love And Kindness Radiating Throughout Your Being, Which Amounts To A Cradling Of Yourself In Loving Kindness And Acceptance, You Can Dwell Here Indefinitely, Drinking At This Fount, Bathing It In, Renewing Yourself, Nourishing Yourself, Enlivening Yourself. This Can Be A Profoundly Healing Practice For Body And Soul.

Even Though In Principle We May "know Better", We Routinely Succumb All The Same To The Incessant, Often Frantic And Unexamined Busyness Of Thinking We Have To Get Somewhere Else First Before We Can Rest; Thinking We Need To Get Certain Things Done To Feel We Have Accomplished Something Before We Can Be Happy.

Acknowledging That Sometimes, Often At Very Crucial Times, You Really Have No Idea Where You Are Going Or Even Where The Path Lies. A The Same Time, You Can Very Well Know Something About Where You Are Now (even If It Is Knowing That You Are Lost, Confused, Enraged Or Without Hope).

It Is Remarkable How Liberating It Feels To Be Able To See That Your Thoughts Are Just Thoughts And That They Are Not 'you' Or 'reality.' For Instance, If You Have The Thought That You Have To Get A Certain Number Of Things Done Today And You Don't Recognize It As A Thought But Act As If It's The 'the Truth,' Then You Have Created A Reality In That Moment In Which You Really Believe That Those Things Must All Be Done Today.

You Are Only Here Now; You're Only Alive In This Moment.

Live In The Moment

Indian, Chinese, Japanese, Vietnamese, Tibetan, Or Other Historical Traditions, Are All Different Streams In The Same River, Different Currents In The Same Ocean. With The Long View, We Can Trust That The Seeds That We're Planting Are Transforming The World.

Initiate Giving. Don't Wait For Someone To Ask. See What Happens - Especially To You. You May Find That You Gain A Greater Clarity About Yourself And About Your Relationships, As Well As More Energy Rather Than Less. You May Find That, Rather Than Exhausting Yourself Or Your Resources, You Will Replenish Them. Such Is The Power Of Mindful, Selfless Generosity. At The Deepest Level, There Is No Giver, No Gift, And No Recipient . . . Only The Universe Rearranging Itself.

See If You Can Give Yourself Gifts That May Be True Blessings, Such As Self-acceptance

We Are Continuously Bombarded With Information, Appeals, Deadlines, Communications... We Are Continually Being Squeezed Or Projected Into The Future As Our Present Moments Are Assaulted And Consumed In The Fires Of Endless Urgency.

Paying Attention And Awareness Are Universal Capacities Of Human Beings.

Perhaps We Just Need Little Reminders From Time To Time That We Are Already Dignified, Deserving, Worthy.

Awareness Is Not The Same As Thoughtmore Like A Vessel Which Can Hold And Contain Our Thinking

The Little Things? The Little Moments? They Aren't Little.

I Was Very Much A Tough New York Street Kid. I Went To A School Where You Had To Learn How To Get Along With Everybody Or Fight With Everybody, And I Did My Fair Share Of Both.

When People Say "let It Go," What They Really Mean Is "get Over It," And That's Not A Helpful Thing To Say. It's Not A Matter Of Letting Go - You Would If You Could. Instead Of "let It Go," We Should Probably Say "let It Be"; This Recognizes That The Mind Won't Let Go And The Problem May Not Go Away, And It Allows You To Form A Healthier Relationship With What's Bothering You.

The Only Time You Ever Have In Which To Learn Anything Or See Anything Or Feel Anything, Or Express Any Feeling Or Emotion, Or Respond To An Event, Or Grow, Or Heal, Is This Moment, Because This Is The Only Moment Any Of Us Ever Gets. You're Only Here Now; You're Only Alive In This Moment.

Arriving Someplace More Desirable At Some Future Time Is An Illusion. This Is It.

Practice Sharing The Fullness Of Your Being, Your Best Self, Your Enthusiasm, Your Vitality, Your Spirit, Your Trust, Your Openness, Above All, Your Presence. Share It With Yourself, With Your Family, With The World.

When Awareness Embraces The Senses, It Enlivens Them.

It Is Indeed A Radical Act Of Love Just To Sit Down And Be Quiet For A Time By Yourself.

You Are Whole And Also Part Of Larger And Larger Circles Of Wholeness You Many Not Even Know About. You Are Never Alone. And You Already Belong. You Belong To Humanity. You Belong To Life. You Belong To This Moment, This Breath.

Mindfulness Is A Way Of Paying Attention, On Purpose And Non-judgmentally, To What Goes On In The Present Moment In Your Body, Mind And The World Around You.

How We See And Hold The Full Range Of Our Experiences In Our Minds And In Our Hearts Makes An Enormous Difference In The Quality Of This Journey We Are On And What It Means To Us. It Can Influence Where We Go, What Happens, What We Learn, And How We Feel Along The Way.

Intelligence Is The Door To Freedom And Alert Attention Is The Mother Of Intelligence.

The Best Way To Capture Moments Is To Pay Attention. This Is How We Cultivate Mindfulness. Mindfulness Means Being Awake. It Means Knowing What You Are Doing.

Science Is Now Documenting That It's Not The Objects Of Meditation That Are Important, It's The Process Of Paying Attention To Them - The Attending - That Actually Influences The Organism In A Whole Range Of Different Ways. The Brain Changes Significantly Enough To Impact Thought, Emotion, And Other Biological Functions. Today, People Recognize That They're Not Going To Find Well-being From The Outside, Or From A Pill; They're Going To Find It By Looking Inside. All The Suffering, Stress, And Addiction Comes From Not Realizing You Already Are What You Are Looking For.

Most People Don't Realize That The Mind Constantly Chatters. And Yet, That Chatter Winds Up Being The Force That Drives Us Much Of The Day In Terms Of What We Do, What We React To, And How We Feel.

"resting In Awareness" Is One Of Those Phrases Used A Lot By People Who Practice Mindfulness. But When I Tried To Do It, It Wasn't Restful And I Worried I Wasn't Doing It Right. I Kept Thinking About Work.

The Funny Thing About Stopping Is That As Soon As You Do It, Here You Are.

Make A List Of What Is Really Important To You. Embody It.

In Any Given Moment We Are Either Practicing Mindfulness, Or Defacto, We Are Practicing Mindlessness.

So, In Meditation Practice, The Best Way To Get Somewhere Is To Let Go Of Trying To Get Anywhere At All.

Meditation Practice

He Who Dies Before He Dies Does Not Die When He Dies.

Simply Put, Mindfulness Is Moment-to-moment Non-judgmental Awareness.

Meditation Is Simply About Being Yourself And Knowing Something About Who That Is. It Is About Coming To Realize That You Are On A Path Whether You Like It Or Not, Namely, The Path That Is Your Life. Meditation May Help Us See That This Path We Call Our Life Has Direction; That It Is Always Unfolding, Moment By Moment; And That What Happens Now, In This Moment, Influences What Happens Next.

To Let Go Means To Give Up Coercing, Resisting, Or Struggling, In Exchange For Something More Powerful And Wholesome Which Comes Out Of Allowing Things To Be As They Are Without Getting Caught Up In Your Attraction To Or Rejection Of Them, In The Intrinsic Stickiness Of Wanting, Of Liking And Disliking.

Karma Is Often Wrongly Confused With The Notion Of A Fixed Destiny. It Is More Like An Accumulation Of Tendencies That Can Lock Us Into Particular Behavior Patterns, Which Themselves Result In Further Accumulations Of Tendencies Of A Similar Nature... But Is Is Not Necessary To Be A Prisoner Of Old Karma.

Once In Awhile Throughout The Day...let Go Into Full Acceptance Of The Present Moment, Including How You Are Feeling And What You Perceive To Be Happening... Give Yourself Permission To Allow This Moment To Be Exactly As It Is, And Allow Yourself To Be Exactly As You Are. Then, When You're Ready, Move In The Direction Your Heart Tells You To Go, Mindfully And With Resolution.

Zen Has An Expression, "nothing Special." When You Understand "nothing Special," You Realize That Everything Is Special. Everything's Special And Nothing's Special. Everything's Spiritual And Nothing's Spiritual. It's How You See, It's What Eyes You're Looking Through, That Matters.

Concentration Is A Cornerstone Of Mindfulness Practice. Your Mindfulness Will Only Be As Robust As The Capacity Of Your Mind To Be Calm And Stable. Without Calmness, The Mirror Of Mindfulness Will Have An Agitated And Choppy Surface And Will Not Be Able To Reflect Things With Any Accuracy.

See For Yourself Whether Letting Go When A Part Of You Really Wants To Hold On Doesn't Bring A Deeper Satisfaction Than Clinging.

It's The Nature Of The Mind To Drift Away. The Mind Is Like The Pacific Ocean, It Waves. And Mindfulness Has Been Shown To Drop Underneath The Waves. If You Drop Underneath The Agitation In The Mind, Into Your Breath Deep Enough Calmness, Gentle Undulations.

The Mind That Has Not Been Developed Or Trained Is Very Scattered. That's The Normal State Of Affairs, But It Leaves Us Out Of Touch With A Great Deal In Life, Including Our Bodies.

If You Look At People Out On The Street, If You Look At People At Restaurants, Nobody's Having Conversations Anymore. They're Sitting At Dinner Looking At Their Phone, Because Their Brain Is So Addicted To It.

When You Have Children, You Realize How Easy It Is To Not See Them Fully, And Perhaps Miss All Those Early Years. If You Are Not Careful, You Can Be Too Absorbed In Work, And They Will Be Only Too Happy To Tell You About It Later. Being A Parent Is One Of Greatest Mindfulness Practices Of All.

It's Okay That The Mind Drifts Away But You Just Bring It Back.

See If You Can Give Yourself Gifts That May Be True Blessings, Such As Self-acceptance , Or Some Time Each Day With No Purpose. Practice Feeling Deserving Enough To Accept These Gifts Without Obligation - To Simply Receive From Yourself, And From The Universe.

Too Much Of The Education System Orients Students Toward Becoming Better Thinkers, But There Is Almost No Focus On Our Capacity To Pay Attention And Cultivate Awareness.

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No One Can Listen To Your Body For You... To Grow And Heal, You Have To Take Responsibility For Listening To It Yourself.

Mindfulness Meditation Is The Embrace Of Any And All Mind States In Awareness, Without Preferring One To Another.

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