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Marrying The Right Girl Is Even More Imperative Today Than It Was When I Was 23 Years Old Because It's So Much Harder To Get On As An Imaginative Writer Like Me Now. You Need To Have Somebody Who Believes In What You're Doing And Who Never Is Skeptical About What You're Doing. My Wife Thought It Was A Great Thing For Me To Be A Writer Because In Practical Terms It Freed Her To Do What She Wanted To Do, Which Was Work.

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Marrying The Right Girl

Richard Ford

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Marrying The Right Girl Is Even More Imperative Today Than It Was When I Was 23 Years Old Because It's So Much Harder To Get On As An Imaginative Writer Like Me Now. You Need To Have Somebody Who Believes In What You're Doing And Who Never Is Skeptical About What You're Doing. My Wife Thought It Was A Great Thing For Me To Be A Writer Because In Practical Terms It Freed Her To Do What She Wanted To Do, Which Was Work.

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