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Marriage Is Not Something That Can Be Accomplished All At Once; It Has To Be Constantly Reaccomplished. A Couple Must Never Indulge In Idle Tranquility With The Remark: "the Game Is Won; Let's Relax." The Game Is Never Won. The Chances Of Life Are Such That Anything Is Possible. Remember What The Dangers Are For Both Sexes In Middle Age. A Successful Marriage Is An Edifice That Must Be Rebuilt Every Day.

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Marriage Is Not Something

Andre Maurois

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Marriage Is Not Something That Can Be Accomplished All At Once; It Has To Be Constantly Reaccomplished. A Couple Must Never Indulge In Idle Tranquility With The Remark: "the Game Is Won; Let's Relax." The Game Is Never Won. The Chances Of Life Are Such That Anything Is Possible. Remember What The Dangers Are For Both Sexes In Middle Age. A Successful Marriage Is An Edifice That Must Be Rebuilt Every Day.

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