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Many Divorces Are Not Really The Result Of Irreparable Injury But Involve, Instead, A Desire On The Part Of The Man Or Woman To Shatter The Setup, Start Out From Scratch Alone, And Make Life Work For Them All Over Again. They Want The Risk Of Disaster, Want To Touch Bottom, See Where Bottom Is, And, Coming Up, To Breathe The Air With Relief And Relish Again.

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Many Divorces Are Not

Edward Hoagland

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Many Divorces Are Not Really The Result Of Irreparable Injury But Involve, Instead, A Desire On The Part Of The Man Or Woman To Shatter The Setup, Start Out From Scratch Alone, And Make Life Work For Them All Over Again. They Want The Risk Of Disaster, Want To Touch Bottom, See Where Bottom Is, And, Coming Up, To Breathe The Air With Relief And Relish Again.

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