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Kids Don't Care What Party They Have, Right? They Want Cake And They Want To Run Around. Nothing Else Matters. But In This Escalation, All The Kids Want Parties Like Their Friends. So, If All The Friends Have An Amazing, Expensive Party, They All Want The Same Thing. If We All Got To Scale Down As A Coordinated Effort, All The Kids Would Have Been Just As Happy.

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Kids Don't Care What

Dan Ariely

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Kids Don't Care What Party They Have, Right? They Want Cake And They Want To Run Around. Nothing Else Matters. But In This Escalation, All The Kids Want Parties Like Their Friends. So, If All The Friends Have An Amazing, Expensive Party, They All Want The Same Thing. If We All Got To Scale Down As A Coordinated Effort, All The Kids Would Have Been Just As Happy.

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We All Want Explanations For Why We Behave As We Do And For The Ways The World Around Us Functions. Even When Our Feeble Explanations Have Little To Do With Reality. We’re Storytelling Creatures By Nature, And We Tell Ourselves Story After Story Until We Come Up With An Explanation That We Like And That Sounds Reasonable Enough To Believe. And When The Story Portrays Us In A More Glowing And Positive Light, So Much The Better.

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I Always Found The Appeal To The Market Gods A Bit Odd. Why Would The Market Fix Mistakes Instead Of Aggravating Them?

The Bad News Is That Ignoring The Performance Of People Is Almost As Bad As Shredding Their Effort In Front Of Their Eyes. Ignoring Gets You A Whole Way Out There. The Good News Is That By Simply Looking At Something That Somebody Has Done, Scanning It And Saying "uh Huh," That Seems To Be Quite Sufficient To Dramatically Improve People's Motivations.

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What You Should Do Is Wait Until The End Of Each Month, And Then Say, "ok, How Much Money Do I Have? How Much Do I Need? Let Me Send The Rest To Retirement."

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We Don't Really Want A Huge House, But We Want The House To Be Slightly Bigger Than Our Neighbors, And A Car That Is Bigger Than Our Neighbor's, And They're Going On Vacation That's Slightly More Expensive, And This Escalation Happens That Things Got Out Of Hand.

With Everything You Do, In Fact, You Should Train Yourself To Question Your Repeated Behaviors.

Ownership Is Not Limited To Material Things. It Can Also Apply To Points Of View. Once We Take Ownership Of An Idea - Whether It’s About Politics Or Sports - What Do We Do? We Love It Perhaps More Than We Should. We Prize It More Than It Is Worth. And Most Frequently, We Have Trouble Letting Go Of It Because We Can’t Stand The Idea Of Its Loss. What Are We Left With Then? An Ideology - Rigid And Unyielding.

Even The Most Analytical Thinkers Are Predictably Irrational; The Really Smart Ones Acknowledge And Address Their Irrationalities.

With Money We Really Fool Ourselves. We Are Our Biggest Enemies With Money And There Are Some Things We Can Do About It. Automatic Deductions Are A Wonderful Thing. But Ideally, You Should Wait Until The End Of The Month, You Can See How Much Extra Money You Had, And You Should Put That In Your Savings Account. We Don't Do That Too Well, And If We Did That, We Would Never Save. So, What We Do, Is We Take Money Out Of Our Pocket Into The Saving Account At The Beginning Of The Month, Take It Outside Of Our Control And As A Consequence, We Spend Less And We Save More.

It Was Shocking To Realize How Many Low-income Americans Don't Have Savings Accounts.

Scaling Down Individually Is Very Hard. Imagine That If You Go To A Place Where Everybody Is Dressed Nicely, And You Are The Only One Who Doesn't Dress Nicely. Everybody Goes On Vacations To A Great Place And You Go To The Jersey Shore. It's Very Hard To Do These Things Without An Organized Mechanism, But It Looks To Me Like There Might Be Some Organized Mechanisms.

There's Something About [cyclically] Doing Something Over And Over And Over That Seems To Be Particularly Demotivating.

Thinking Is Difficult And Sometimes Unpleasant.

Motivation, Basically Getting People To Be Happy At Work, Everybody - Everybody Benefits.

Once We Start Thinking Of Ourselves As Polluted, There Is Not Much Incentive To Behave Well, And The Trip Down The Slippery Slope Is Likely.

I Don't Think We Should Go Around Life And Being Miserable All The Time And Feel The Pain Of Paying. It's A Question Of What Categories We Want To Spend More On And What Categories We Want Feel That We Are Spending Too Much On And We Want To Cut Down.

Dishonesty Is All About The Small Acts We Can Take And Then Think, 'no, This Not Real Cheating.' So If You Think That The Main Mechanism Is Rationalization, Then What You Come Up With, And That's What We Find, Is That We're Basically Trying To Balance Feeling Good About Ourselves.

The Real Issue Is, How Much Goodwill Do You Invest In The Work? And Goodwill Is Not Something That We Can Buy With Money. It's Very Hard To Buy Goodwill With Money.

When You Get A Checking Account, You Should Have A Savings Account, And The Number For The Savings Account Should Be One Off Of Your Checking Account.

It Is Helpful To Think Of People As Having Two Fundamental Motivations: The Desire To See Ourselves As Honest, Good People, And The Desire To Gain The Benefits That Come From Cheating - On Our Taxes Or On The Football Field.

The Major Thing That Holds You Back When You're Trying To Change A Bad Habit Like Eating, Smoking, Or Drinking Too Much Is Your Belief You Are Out Of Control.

When You're In Pain, Tomorrow Doesn't Exist - Just The Pain - And The Only Thing That You Want In The World Is For It To Go Away.

Money Is A Great Way To Get Happiness. Right? Lots Of Wonderful Things You Can Do With Money. The Question Is, Are We Really Optimizing On That? So, If You Think About Getting Lattes And Getting Cable. Which One Of Those Is Actually Giving You A Greater Happiness, And If You Have To Cut On One Of Those, Which One Would You Cut? So, I Think Thinking In Terms Of Concrete Terms Would Help Us A Great Deal.

The Problem With Opportunity Cost Is That Opportunity Cost Is Divided Among Many, Many Things.

I Think We Could Get People To Both Be More Productive And Happier. We're Less Productive As Individuals. We're Less Productive As Companies, And We're More Miserable.

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Marketing Is All About Providing Information That Will Heighten Someone's Anticipated And Real Pleasure.

Linking Financial Element To Energy Consumption I Think Has A Huge Role If You Think About A Display Instrument That Could Teach Us About What We Are Using, How Much It Costs Us, How Much It Is Saving, And Therefore Change Our Decisions.

When We Save, Everybody In The Household Is Just Suffering. By Having The Coin In A Visible Way, When You Scratch, You Can Say The Person That Is In Charge Of The Making Money For The Family Is Doing The Right Thing.

None Of Us Always Make The Best Financial Decisions.

If You Have Loans, The First Thing You Want To Do Is Say, "okay, Look I Have A Credit Card, If I Really Need To Borrow, I Have This Emergency Money That I Can Get, But For Now There Is No Reason For Me To Keep Cash At Zero Percent Interest Rate And At The Same Time, Pay All Of This Money Out. So, I Think People Need To Figure Out Quickly How To Pay Loans And How Much Cash They Should Really Keep.

Once You Break The Social Norm And Create A New Social Norm, All Of A Sudden It Can Stay With Us For A Long Time.

The Idea That You Will Make The Right Decision Every Time Is Very Unlikely.

In Life We Encounter Many People Who, In Some Way Or Another, Try To Tattoo Our Faces.

You Can Think About Life As A Battle Between You And A Doughnut Shop. The Doughnut Shop Wants You To Eat Another Doughnut And Pay The Money, And You Want To Do It In The Short Term, But In The Long Term It's Not Good For You Either Financially Or From A Health Perspective.

What People Do Is They Pay The Small Loans First. Why? Because They Enjoy Making The Number Of Loans Smaller. But Of Course It Is A Very Ineffective Way To Pay Debt Down.

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