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It Is Not Strange That Some Of Our Revoltes Preach Trial Marriage: For The Only Safe Way To Marry Them At All Would Be On Trial. Until You Had Definitely Experienced All The Human Situations With Them, You Would Have No Means Of Knowing How, In Any Given Situation, They Would Behave. They Might Conform About Evening-dress, And Throw Plates Between Courses; They Might Be Charming To Your Friends, And Ask The Waiter To Sit Down And Finish Dinner With You. Or They Might In All Things, Little And Big, Be Irreproachable. The Point Is That You Would Never Know.

-Katharine Fullerton Gerould

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It Is Not Strange

Katharine Fullerton Gerould

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It Is Not Strange That Some Of Our Revoltes Preach Trial Marriage: For The Only Safe Way To Marry Them At All Would Be On Trial. Until You Had Definitely Experienced All The Human Situations With Them, You Would Have No Means Of Knowing How, In Any Given Situation, They Would Behave. They Might Conform About Evening-dress, And Throw Plates Between Courses; They Might Be Charming To Your Friends, And Ask The Waiter To Sit Down And Finish Dinner With You. Or They Might In All Things, Little And Big, Be Irreproachable. The Point Is That You Would Never Know.

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