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Indeed, Your Biggest Challenge May Be To Fully Harness Your Strengths. You May Be So Busy Trying To Appear Like A Zestful, Reward-sensitive Extrovert That You Undervalue Your Own Talents, Or Feel Underestimated By Those Around You. But When You’re Focused On A Project That You Care About, You Probably Find That Your Energy Is Boundless.

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Indeed, Your Biggest Challenge May Be To Fully Harness Your Strengths. You May Be So Busy Trying To Appear Like A Zestful, Reward-sensitive Extrovert That You Undervalue Your Own Talents, Or Feel Underestimated By Those Around You. But When You’re Focused On A Project That You Care About, You Probably Find That Your Energy Is Boundless.

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Evangelicalism Has Taken The Extrovert Ideal To Its Logical Extreme...if You Don't Love Jesus Out Loud, Then It Must Not Be Real Love. It's Not Enough To Forge Your Own Spiritual Connection To The Divine; It Must Be Displayed Publicly.

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Introverts Need To Trust Their Gut And Share Their Ideas As Powerfully As They Can. This Does Not Mean Aping Extroverts; Ideas Can Be Shared Quietly, They Can Be Communicated In Writing, They Can Be Packaged Into Highly Produced Lectures, They Can Be Advanced By Allies. The Trick For Introverts Is To Honor Their Own Styles Instead Of Allowing Themselves To Be Swept Up By Prevailing Norms.

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The Emphasis Is On Community, On Participating In More And More Programs And Events, On Meeting More And More People. It’s A Constant Tension For Many Introverts That They’re Not Living That Out. And In A Religious World, There’s More At Stake When You Feel That Tension. It Doesn’t Feel Like ‘i’m Not Doing As Well As I’d Like.’ It Feels Like ‘god Isn’t Pleased With Me.’

Cross The Street To Avoid Making Aimless Chitchat With Random Acquaintances.

Whoever You Are, Bear In Mind That Appearance Is Not Reality. Some People Act Like Extroverts, But The Effort Costs Them Energy, Authenticity, And Even Physical Health. Others Seem Aloof Or Self-contained, But Their Inner Landscapes Are Rich And Full Of Drama. So The Next Time You See A Person With A Composed Face And A Soft Voice, Remember That Inside Her Mind She Might Be Solving An Equation, Composing A Sonnet, Designing A Hat. She Might, That Is, Be Deploying The Powers Of Quiet.

Our Culture Rightly Admires Risk-takers, But We Need Our 'heed-takers' More Than Ever.

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(finland Is A Famously Introverted Nation. Finnish Joke: How Can You Tell If A Finn Likes You? He's Staring At Your Shoes Instead Of His Own.)

Our Culture Is Biased Against Quiet And Reserved People, But Introverts Are Responsible For Some Of Humanity's Greatest Achievements.

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Many People Believe That Introversion Is About Being Antisocial, And That's Really A Misperception. Because Actually It's Just That Introverts Are Differently Social. So They Would Prefer To Have A Glass Of Wine With A Close Friend As Opposed To Going To A Loud Party Full Of Strangers.

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Persistence Isn't Very Glamorous. If Genius Is One Percent Inspiration And Ninety-nine Percent Perspiration, Then As A Culture We Tend To Lionize The One Percent. We Love Its Flash And Dazzle. But Great Power Lies In The Other Ninety-nine Percent.

Extroversion Is An Enormously Appealing Personality Style, But We've Turned It Into An Oppressive Standard To Which Most Of Us Feel We Must Conform.

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I Worry That There Are People Who Are Put In Positions Of Authority Because They're Good Talkers, But They Don't Have Good Ideas. It's So Easy To Confuse Schmoozing Ability With Talent. Someone Seems Like A Good Presenter, Easy To Get Along With, And Those Traits Are Rewarded. Well, Why Is That? They're Valuable Traits, But We Put Too Much Of A Premium On Presenting And Not Enough On Substance And Critical Thinking.

Open-plan Offices Have Been Found To Reduce Productivity And Impair Memory. They’re Associated With High Staff Turnover. They Make People Sick, Hostile, Unmotivated, And Insecure.

...true Self-esteem Comes From Competence, Not The Other Way Around.

Or At School You Might Have Been Prodded To Come “out Of Your Shell”—that Noxious Expression Which Fails To Appreciate That Some Animals Naturally Carry Shelter Everywhere They Go, And That Some Humans Are Just The Same.

.. It Makes Sense That Introverts Are Uniquely Good At Leading Intiative-takers. Because Of Their Inclination To Listen To Others And Lack Of Interest In Dominating Social Situations, Introverts Are More Likely To Hear And Implement Suggestions. Having Benefited From The Talents Of Their Followers, They Are Then Likely To Motivate Them To Be Even More Proactive. Introverted Leaders Create A Virtious Circle Of Proactivity.

Though Shyness Per Se Was Unacceptable, Reserve Was A Mark Of Good Breeding.

We Have A Two-tier Class System When It Comes To Personality Style. To Devalue Introversion Is A Waste Of Talent, Energy And Happiness.

Studies Have Shown That Performance Gets Worse As Group Size Increases ... If You Have Talented And Motivated People, They Should Be Encouraged To Work Alone When Creativity Or Efficiency Is The Highest Priority.

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...i Also Believe That Introversion Is My Greatest Strength. I Have Such A Strong Inner Life That I’m Never Bored And Only Occasionally Lonely. No Matter What Mayhem Is Happening Around Me, I Know I Can Always Turn Inward.

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[introverts,] The World Needs You And It Needs The Things You Carry. So I Wish You The Best Of All Possible Journeys And The Courage To Speak Softly.

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Introverts Need To Trust Their Gut And Share Their Ideas As Powerfully As They Can.

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In A Way, Education By Its Nature Favours The Extrovert Because You Are Taking Kids And Putting Them Into A Big Classroom, Which Is Automatically Going To Be A High-stimulation Environment. Probably The Best Way Of Teaching In General Is One On One, But That's Not Something Everyone Can Afford.

What Looks Like Multitasking Is Really Switching Back And Forth Between Multiple Tasks, Which Reduces Productivity And Increases Mistakes By Up To 50 Percent.

Introverts Are Offered Keys To Private Gardens Full Of Riches. To Possess Such A Key Is To Tumble Like Alice Down Her Rabbit Hole. She Didn't Choose To Go To Wonderland - But She Made Of It An Adventure That Was Fresh And Fantastic And Very Much Her Own.

Scores Of Studies Have Shown That Venting Doesn't Soothe Anger; It Fuels It.

Ask Your Child For Information In A Gentle, Nonjudgmental Way, With Specific, Clear Questions. Instead Of “how Was Your Day?” Try “what Did You Do In Math Class Today?” Instead Of “do You Like Your Teacher?” Ask “what Do You Like About Your Teacher?” Or “what Do You Not Like So Much?” Let Her Take Her Time To Answer. Try To Avoid Asking, In The Overly Bright Voice Of Parents Everywhere, “did You Have Fun In School Today?!” She’ll Sense How Important It Is That The Answer Be Yes.

Another Study, Of 38,000 Knowledge Workers Across Different Sectors, Found That The Simple Act Of Being Interrupted Is One Of The Biggest Barriers To Productivity. Even Multitasking, That Prized Feat Of Modern-day Office Warriors, Turns Out To Be A Myth.

Any Time People Come Together In A Meeting, We're Not Necessarily Getting The Best Ideas; We're Just Getting The Ideas Of The Best Talkers.

But When The Group Is Literally Capable Of Changing Our Perceptions, And When To Stand Alone Is To Activate Primitive, Powerful, And Unconscious Feelings Of Rejection, Then The Health Of These Institutions Seems Far More Vulnerable Than We Think.

Our Lives Are Shaped As Profoundly By Personality As By Gender Or Race. And The Single Most Important Aspect Of Personality ... Is Where We Fall On The Introvert-extrovert Spectrum.

The Bias Against Introversion Leads To A Colossal Waste Of Talent, Energy, And Happiness.

Don't Think Of Introversion As Something That Needs To Be Cured.

So Stay True To Your Own Nature. If You Like To Do Things In A Slow And Steady Way, Don't Let Others Make You Feel As If You Have To Race. If You Enjoy Depth, Don't Force Yourself To Seek Breadth. If You Prefer Single-tasking To Multi-tasking, Stick To Your Guns. Being Relatively Unmoved By Rewards Gives You The Incalculable Power To Go Your Own Way.

If You Enjoy Depth, Don't Force Yourself To Seek Breadth. If You Prefer Single-tasking To Multi-tasking, Stick To Your Guns.

When You Go To A Football Game And Someone Offers You A Beer [...], They're Really Saying Hi, Have A Glass Of Extroversion.

Schwartz's Research Suggests Something Important: We Can Stretch Our Personalities, But Only Up To A Point. Our Inborn Temperaments Influence Us, Regardless Of The Lives We Lead. A Sizeable Part Of Who We Are Is Ordained By Our Genes, By Our Brains, By Our Nervous Systems. And Yet The Elasticity That Schwartz Found In Some Of The High-reactive Teens Also Suggests The Converse: We Have Free Will And Can Use It To Shape Our Personalities.

We're Told That To Be Great Is To Be Bold, To Be Happy Is To Be Sociable. We See Ourselves As A Nation Of Extroverts - Which Means That We've Lost Sight Of Who We Really Are. Depending On Which Study You Consult, One Third To One Half Of Americans Are Introverts - In Other Words, One Out Of Every Two Or Three People You Know.

Flow Is An Optimal State In Which You Feel Totally Engaged In An Activity...in A State Of Flow, You're Neither Bored Nor Anxious, And You Don't Question Your Own Adequacy. Hours Pass Without Your Noticing.

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We've Known About The Transcendent Power Of Solitude For Centuries; It's Only Recently That We've Forgotten It.

...remember The Dangers Of The New Groupthink. If It's Creativity You're After, Ask Your Employees To Solve Problems Alone Before Sharing Their Ideas. If You Want The Wisdom Of The Crowd, Gather It Electronically, Or In Writing, And Make Sure People Can't See Each Other's Ideas Until Everyone Has Had A Chance To Contribute.

I've Never Given A Speech Without Being Terrified First.

I Look Back On My Years As A Wall Street Lawyer As Time Spent In A Foreign Country.

I'm Insatiably Curious About Human Nature.

Introverts Often Work More Slowly And Deliberately. They Like To Focus On One Task At A Time And Can Have Mighty Powers Of Concentration . They're Relatively Immune To The Lures Of Wealth And Fame.

All Personality Traits Have Their Good Side And Their Bad Side. But For A Long Time, We've Seen Introversion Only Through Its Negative Side And Extroversion Mostly Through Its Positive Side.

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Eleanor Roosevelt, Rosa Parks, Gandhi — All These Peopled Described Themselves As Quiet And Soft-spoken And Even Shy. And They All Took The Spotlight, Even Though Every Bone In Their Bodies Was Telling Them Not To.

As A Young Boy, Charles Darwin Made Friends Easily But Preferred To Spend His Time Taking Long, Solitary Nature Walks. (as An Adult He Was No Different. “my Dear Mr. Babbage,” He Wrote To The Famous Mathematician Who Had Invited Him To A Dinner Party, “i Am Very Much Obliged To You For Sending Me Cards For Your Parties, But I Am Afraid Of Accepting Them, For I Should Meet Some People There, To Whom I Have Sworn By All The Saints In Heaven, I Never Go Out.”)

Solitude Is Out Of Fashion. Our Companies, Our Schools And Our Culture Are In Thrall To An Idea I Call The New Groupthink, Which Holds That Creativity And Achievement Come From An Oddly Gregarious Place.

Do You Really Believe In What You Said Or Wrote – In The Thing That’s Bringing Criticism? And If I Do Believe It, I Can Withstand Anything.

Even When The Attention Focused On Me Is Positive, I Am Uncomfortable Being Looked At By A Lot Of People - It's Just Not My Natural State Of Being.

The Secret To Life Is To Put Yourself In The Right Lighting. For Some, It's A Broadway Spotlight; For Others, A Lamplit Desk. Use Your Natural Powers -- Of Persistence, Concentration, And Insight -- To Do Work You Love And Work That Matters. Solve Problems. Make Art, Think Deeply.

I'm Continually Amazed By How Many People Who Appear To Be Extroverts Are Actually Introverts.

A Widely Held, But Rarely Articulated, Belief In Our Society Is That The Ideal Self Is Bold, Alpha, Gregarious. Introversion Is Viewed Somewhere Between Disappointment And Pathology.

We Don’t Ask Why God Chose As His Prophet A Stutterer With A Public Speaking Phobia. But We Should. The Book Of Exodus Is Short On Explication, But Its Stories Suggest That Introversion Plays Yin To The Yang Of Extroversion; That The Medium Is Not Always The Message; And That People Followed Moses Because His Words Were Thoughtful, Not Because He Spoke Them Well.

In Most Job Interviews, People Say They Are Looking For People Skills And Emotional Intelligence. That's Reasonable, But The Question Is, How Do You Define What That Looks Like?

Introverts Are Capable Of Acting Like Extroverts For The Sake Of Work They Consider Important, People They Love, Or Anything They Value Highly.

Remember That Introverts React Not Only To New People, But Also To New Places And Events. So Don’t Mistake A Child’s Caution In New Situations For An Inability To Relate To Others. He’s Recoiling From Novelty Or Overstimulation, Not From Human Contact. Introverts Are Just As Likely As The Next Kid To Seek Others’ Company, Though Often In Smaller Doses

I Actually Find Extroversion To Be A Really Appealing Personality Style.

Introverts Are Especially Vulnerable To Challenges Like Marital Tension, A Parent’s Death, Or Abuse. They’re More Likely Than Their Peers To React To These Events With Depression, Anxiety, And Shyness. Indeed, About A Quarter Of Kagan’s High-reactive Kids Suffer From Some Degree Of The Condition Known As “social Anxiety Disorder,” A Chronic And Disabling Form Of Shyness.

Anxiety Disorder

We Don't Need Giant Personalities To Transform Companies. We Need Leaders Who Build Not Their Own Egos But The Institutions They Run.

The Glory Of The Disposition That Stops To Consider Stimuli Rather Than Rushing To Engage With Them Is Its Long Association With Intellectual And Artistic Achievement. Neither E=mc2 Nor Paradise Lost Was Dashed Off By A Party Animal.

Solve Problems, Make Art, Think Deeply.

We Know From Myths And Fairy Tales That There Are Many Different Kinds Of Powers In This World. One Child Is Given A Light Saber, Another A Wizard's Education. The Trick Is Not To Amass All The Different Kinds Of Power, But To Use Well The Kind You've Been Granted.

We Often Marvel At How Introverted, Geeky, Kid 'blossom' Into Secure And Happy Adults. We Liken It To A Metamorphosis. However, Maybe It's Not The Children Who Change But Their Environments. As Adults They Get To Select The Careers, Spouses, And Social Circles That Suit Them. They Don't Have To Live In Whatever Culture They'er Plunked Into.

Shyness Is Inherently Uncomfortable; Introversion Is Not. The Traits Do Overlap, Though Psychologists Debate To What Degree.

Shyness Is The Fear Of Social Disapproval Or Humiliation, While Introversion Is A Preference For Environments That Are Not Overstimulating. Shyness Is Inherently Painful; Introversion Is Not.

The Pressure To Entertain, To Sell Ourselves, And Never To Be Visibly Anxious Keeps Ratcheting Up.

You're Told That You're In Your Head Too Much, A Phrase That's Often Deployed Against The Quiet And Cerebral. Or Maybe There's Another Word For Such People: Thinkers.

I Think The Shyness One Feels In Childhood Is Often Overcome With Time. There Are Children Who Hide Behind Their Parents' Legs, But You Don't See Grown-ups Hiding Behind People. It Just Doesn't Happen. I Mean, Not That Often. People Develop Social Skills Over Time.

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