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If You Ask Where A Relationship Is Going Too Often The Question Has A Habit Of Turning Into Where The Relationship Went. Unfortunately, However, God Has Given Women An Inbuilt Irresistible Urge To Insist On Knowing Where Their Relationships Are Going, And To Force Their Partners To Discuss The Matter At Length Whenever They Are Late For Something.

-Helen Fielding

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If You Ask Where

Helen Fielding

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If You Ask Where A Relationship Is Going Too Often The Question Has A Habit Of Turning Into Where The Relationship Went. Unfortunately, However, God Has Given Women An Inbuilt Irresistible Urge To Insist On Knowing Where Their Relationships Are Going, And To Force Their Partners To Discuss The Matter At Length Whenever They Are Late For Something.

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Women Today Are Bombarded With So Many Messages, Like We Should Have Naomi Campbell's Body And Madeleine Albright's Career.

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When Someone Leaves You, Apart From Missing Them, Apart From The Fact That The Whole Little World You've Created Together Collapses, And That Everything You See Or Do Reminds You Of Them, The Worst Is The Thought That They Tried You Out And, In The End, The Whole Sum Of Parts Adds Up To You Got Stamped Reject By The One You Love. How Can You Not Be Left With The Personal Confidence Of A Passed Over British Rail Sandwich?

Tom Has A Theory That Homosexuals And Single Women In Their Thirties Have Natural Bonding: Both Being Accustomed To Disappointing Their Parents And Being Treated As Freaks By Society.

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It Is Horrid To Smirk.

..we Were Always Taught, Instead Of Waiting To Be Swept Off Our Feet, To 'expect Little, Forgive Much'.

It's Amazing How Much Time And Money Can Be Saved In The World Of Dating By Close Attention To Detail. A White Sock Here, A Pair Of Red Braces There, A Gray Slip-on Shoe, A Swastika, Are As Often As Not All One Needs To Tell You There's No Point In Writing Down Phone Numbers And Forking Out For Expensive Lunches Because It's Never Going To Be A Runner.

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Can Officially Confirm That The Way To A Man's Heart These Days Is Not Through Beauty, Food, Sex, Or Alluringness Of Character, But Merely The Ability To Seem Not Very Interested In Him.

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