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I Don't Believe That Children Can Develop In A Healthy Way Unless They Feel That They Have Value Apart From Anything They Own Or Any Skill That They Learn. They Need To Feel They Enhance The Life Of Someone Else, That They Are Needed. Who, Better Than Parents, Can Let Them Know That?

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Fred Rogers

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I Don't Believe That Children Can Develop In A Healthy Way Unless They Feel That They Have Value Apart From Anything They Own Or Any Skill That They Learn. They Need To Feel They Enhance The Life Of Someone Else, That They Are Needed. Who, Better Than Parents, Can Let Them Know That?

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I've Always Wanted To Have A Neighbor Just Like You. I've Always Wanted To Live In A Neighborhood With You.

When I Was A Boy And I Would See Scary Things In The News, My Mother Would Say To Me, "look For The Helpers. You Will Always Find People Who Are Helping.

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It's Important To Know When We Need To Stop, Reflect, And Receive. In Our Competitive World, That Might Be Called A Waste Of Time.

Play Gives Children A Chance To Practice What They Are Learning...they Have To Play With What They Know To Be True In Order To Find Out More, And Then They Can Use What They Learn In New Forms Of Play.

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We Speak With More Than Our Mouths. We Listen With More Than Our Ears.

All Life Events Are Formative. All Contribute To What We Become, Year By Year, As We Go On Growing. As My Friend The Poet Kenneth Koch Once Said, You Aren't Just The Age You Are. You Are All The Ages You Ever Have Been!

When I Say It's You I Like, I'm Talking About That Part Of You That Knows That Life Is Far More Than Anything You Can Ever See Or Hear Or Touch. That Deep Part Of You That Allows You To Stand For Those Things Without Which Humankind Cannot Survive. Love That Conquers Hate, Peace That Rises Triumphant Over War, And Justice That Proves More Powerful Than Greed.

Our Children Are Extensions Of Ourselves In Ways Our Parents Are Not, Nor Our Brothers And Sisters, Nor Our Spouses.

Propel, Propel, Propel Your Craft Softly Down Liquid Solution. Ecstatically, Ecstatically, Ecstatically, Ecstatically, Existence Is Simply Illusion.

I Believe That At The Center Of The Universe There Dwells A Loving Spirit Who Longs For All That’s Best In All Of Creation, A Spirit Who Knows The Great Potential Of Each Planet As Well As Each Person, And Little By Little Will Love Us Into Being More Than We Ever Dreamed Possible. That Loving Spirit Would Rather Die Than Give Up On Any One Of Us.

When I Was Very Young, Most Of My Childhood Heroes Wore Capes, Flew Through The Air, Or Picked Up Buildings With One Arm. They Were Spectacular And Got A Lot Of Attention. But As I Grew, My Heroes Changed, So That Now I Can Honestly Say That Anyone Who Does Anything To Help A Child Is A Hero To Me.

A Young Apprentice Applied To A Master Carpenter For A Job. The Older Man Asked Him, "do You Know Your Trade?" "yes, Sir!" The Young Man Replied Proudly. "have You Ever Made A Mistake?" The Older Man Inquired. "no, Sir!" The Young Man Answered, Feeling Certain He Would Get The Job. "then There's No Way I'm Going To Hire You," Said The Master Carpenter, "because When You Make One, You Won't Know How To Fix It.

Anyone Who Does Anything To Help A Child In His Life Is A Hero To Me.

I Feel So Strongly That Deep And Simple Is Far More Essential Than Shallow And Complex.

I Doubt That We Can Ever Successfully Impose Values Or Attitudes Or Behaviors On Our Children Certainly Not By Threat, Guilt, Or Punishment. But I Do Believe They Can Be Induced Through Relationships Where Parents And Children Are Growing Together. Such Relationships Are, I Believe, Build On Trust, Example, Talk, And Caring.

Imagining May Be The First Step In Making It Happen, But It Takes The Real Time And Real Efforts Of Real People To Learn Things, Make Things, Turn Thoughts Into Deeds Or Visions Into Inventions.

Who We Are In The Present Includes Who We Were In The Past.

Love Isn't A State Of Perfect Caring, It Is An Active Noun Like Struggle.

This Is What I Give. I Give An Expression Of Care Every Day To Each Child, To Help Him Realize That He Is Unique. I End Each Program By Saying, 'you've Made This Day A Special Day By Just Your Being You. There's No Person In The Whole World Like You. And I Like You Just The Way You Are.' And I Feel That If We In Public Television Can Only Make It Clear That Feelings Are Mentionable And Manageable, We Will Have Done A Great Service.

You Rarely Have Time For Everything You Want In This Life, So You Need To Make Choices. And Hopefully Your Choices Can Come From A Deep Sense Of Who You Are.

One Of The Greatest Dignities Of Humankind Is That Each Successive Generation Is Invested In The Welfare Of Each New Generation.

It's Not Always Easy For A Father To Understand The Interests And Ways Of His Son. It Seems The Songs Of Our Children May Be In Keys We've Never Tried. The Melody Of Each Generation Emerges From All That's Gone Before. Each One Of Us Contributes In Some Unique Way To The Composition Of Life.

More And More I've Come To Understand That Listening Is One Of The Most Important Things We Can Do For One Another. Whether The Other Be An Adult Or A Child, Our Engagement In Listening To Who That Person Is Can Often Be Our Greatest Gift. Whether That Person Is Speaking Or Playing Or Dancing, Building Or Singing Or Painting, If We Care, We Can Listen.

[i]f We Can Bring Our Children Understanding, Comfort, And Hopefulness When They Need This Kind Of Support, Then They Are More Likely To Grow Into Adults Who Can Find These Resources Within Themselves Later On. (from The Introduction)

When I Was A Boy And I Would See Scary Things In The News, My Mother Would Say To Me, "look For The Helpers. You Will Always Find People Who Are Helping." To This Day, Especially In Times Of "disaster," I Remember My Mother's Words And I Am Always Comforted By Realizing That There Are Still So Many Helpers – So Many Caring People In This World.

It's A Miracle When We Finally Discover Whom We're Best Equipped To Serve.

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The World Needs A Sense Of Worth, And It Will Achieve It Only By Its People Feeling That They Are Worthwhile.

Often, Problems Are Knots With Many Strands, And Looking At Those Strands Can Make A Problem Seem Different.

We Don't Always Succeed In What We Try, Certainly Not By The World's Standards, But I Think You'll Find It's The Willingness To Keep Trying That Matters Most.

When Our Children See Us Expressing Our Emotions, They Can Learn That Their Own Feelings Are Natural And Permissible, Can Be Expressed, And Can Be Talked About. That's An Important Thing For Our Children To Learn.

Very Early In Our Children's Lives We Will Be Forced To Realize That The "perfect" Untroubled Life We'd Like For Them Is Just A Fantasy. In Daily Living, Tears And Fights And Doing Things We Don't Want To Do Are All Part Of Our Human Ways Of Developing Into Adults.

My Hope For All Of Us Is That 'the Miles We Go Before We Sleep' Will Be Filled With All The Feelings That Come From Deep Caring--delight , Sadness, Joy, Wisdom--and That In All The Endings Of Our Life, We Will Be Able To See The New Beginnings.

Children Long To Know That They Are Lovable. And There Are Ways That Technology Can Help With That. But Ultimately It's Their Relationships With Their Parents, Their Grandparents, Their Peers, And Their Teachers That Help Them To Know That For Sure. A Child Can Learn The Word "hug" And The Letters H-u-g Through A Computer, But A Computer Can Never Give The Child A Hug.

Love Begins With Listening.

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When We Love A Person, We Accept Him Or Her Exactly As Is: The Lovely With The Unlovely, The Strong With The Fearful, The True Mixed In With The Façade, And Of Course, The Only Way We Can Do It Is By Accepting Ourselves That Way.

Parents Find Many Different Ways To Work Their Way Through The Assertiveness Of Their Two-year-olds, But Seeing That Assertiveness As Positive Energy Being Directed Toward Growth As A Competent Individual May Open Up Some New Possibilities.

I Think Everybody Longs To Be Loved And Longs To Know That He Or She Is Lovable And, Consequently, The Greatest Thing That We Can Do Is To Help Somebody Know That They Are Loved And Capable Of Loving.

I Believe That Appreciation Is A Holy Thing--that When We Look For What's Best In A Person We Happen To Be With At The Moment, We're Doing What God Does All The Time. So In Loving And Appreciating Our Neighbor, We're Participating In Something Sacred.

When I Was A Boy I Used To Think That Strong Meant Having Big Muscles, Great Physical Power; But The Longer I Live, The More I Realize That Real Strength Has Much More To Do With What Is Not Seen. Real Strength Has To Do With Helping Others.

I'm Fairly Convinced That The Kingdom Of God Is For The Broken-hearted. You Write Of 'powerlessness.' Join The Club, We Are Not In Control. God Is.

It Is One Of The Paradoxes Of Parenting, And Often A Painful Paradox, That Even As Our Children Need Us For Love And Trust, They Also Need Us For Honest Differing. It's Not Only Over Limits And Rules...[but Also] About What We Represent In The Way Of Culture, Traditions, And Values. We Owe It To Our Children To Let Them Know What We Believe, And If They Differ With Us, We Owe It To Them To Be Honest Adversaries, For It Is Through This Honest Confrontation That Children Can Grow Into Adults Who Have A Firm Sense Of Their Place In The Sequence Of The Generations.

If The Grain Of Wheat Could Know Fear, It Would Be Paralyzed With Anxiety At The Thought Of Being Dropped In The Ground, Covered Over, Put Out Of Sight, Doomed To Inactivity, Yet What A Glorious Harvest Awaits It!

I Think Of Discipline As The Continual Everyday Process Of Helping A Child Learn Self-discipline.

When We Choose To Be Parents, We Accept Another Human Being As Part Of Ourselves, And A Large Part Of Our Emotional Selves Will Stay With That Person As Long As We Live. From That Time On, There Will Be Another Person On This Earth Whose Orbit Around Us Will Affect Us As Surely As The Moon Affects The Tides, And Affect Us In Some Ways More Deeply Than Anyone Else Can. Our Children Are Extensions Of Ourselves.

All I Know To Do Is To Light The Candle That Has Been Given To Me.

Try Your Best To Make Goodness Attractive. That's One Of The Toughest Assignments You'll Ever Be Given.

I Don't Think Anyone Can Grow Unless He's Loved Exactly As He Is Now, Appreciated For What He Is Rather Than What He Will Be.

It Always Helps To Have People We Love Beside Us When We Have To Do Difficult Things In Life.

It's A Beautiful Day In This Neighborhood, A Beautiful Day For A Neighbor. Would You Be Mine? Could You Be Mine?... It's A Neighborly Day In This Beauty Wood, A Neighborly Day For A Beauty. Would You Be Mine? Could You Be Mine?... I've Always Wanted To Have A Neighbor Just Like You. I've Always Wanted To Live In A Neighborhood With You. So, Let's Make The Most Of This Beautiful Day. Since We're Together We Might As Well Say: Would You Be Mine? Could You Be Mine? Won't You Be My Neighbor? Won't You Please, Won't You Please? Please Won't You Be My Neighbor?

Parents Are Like Shuttles On A Loom. They Join The Threads Of The Past With Threads Of The Future And Leave Their Own Bright Patterns As They Go.

The Greatest Gift That You Can Give Another Person Is To Gracefully Receive Whatever It Is That They Want To Give Us.

Life Is Deep And Simple, And What Our Society Gives Us Is Shallow And Complicated.

The Roots Of A Child's Ability To Cope And Thrive, Regardless Of Circumstance, Lie In That Child's Having Had At Least A Small, Safe Place (an Apartment? A Room? A Lap?) In Which, In The Companionship Of A Loving Person, That Child Could Discover That He Or She Was Lovable And Capable Of Loving In Return. If A Child Finds This During The First Years Of Life, He Or She Can Grow Up To Be A Competent, Healthy Person.

Often When You Think You're At The End Of Something, You're At The Beginning Of Something Else.

Our World Hangs Like A Magnificent Jewel In The Vastness Of Space. Every One Of Us Is A Part Of That Jewel. A Facet Of That Jewel. And In The Perspective Of Infinity, Our Differences Are Infinitesimal.

The Presence Of A Grandparent Confirms That Parents Were, Indeed, Little Once, Too, And That People Who Are Little Can Grow To Be Big, Can Become Parents, And One Day Even Have Grandchildren Of Their Own. So Often We Think Of Grandparents As Belonging To The Past; But In This Important Way, Grandparents, For Young Children, Belong To The Future.

The Gifts We Treasure Most Over The Years Are Often Small And Simple. In Easy Times And Tough Times, What Seems To Matter Most Is The Way We Show Those Nearest Us That We've Been Listening To Their Needs, To Their Joys, And To Their Challenges.

I Recently Learned That In An Average Lifetime A Person Walks About Sixty-five Thousand Miles. That's Two And A Half Times Around The World. I Wonder Where Your Steps Will Take You. I Wonder How You'll Use The Rest Of The Miles You're Given.

In Appreciating Our Neighbor, We're Participating In Something Truly Sacred.

The Best Teacher In The World Is Someone Who Loves What He Or She Does, And Just Loves It In Front Of You.

All Of Us Have Special Ones Who Have Loved Us Into Being

Listening Is A Very Active Awareness Of The Coming Together Of At Least Two Lives. Listening, As Far As I'm Concerned, Is Certainly A Prerequisite Of Love. One Of The Most Essential Ways Of Saying 'i Love You' Is Being A Receptive Listener.

There's No "should" Or "should Not" When It Comes To Having Feelings. They're Part Of Who We Are And Their Origins Are Beyond Our Control. When We Can Believe That, We May Find It Easier To Make Constructive Choices About What To Do With Those Feelings.

It's A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood, A Beautiful Day For A Neighbor. Would You Be Mine; Could You Be Mine?

Feeling Good About Ourselves Is Essential In Our Being Able To Love Others.

It's Very Dramatic When Two People Come Together To Work Something Out. It's Easy To Take A Gun And Annihilate Your Opposition, But What Is Really Exciting To Me Is To See People With Differing Views Come Together And Finally Respect Each Other.

Parents Who Expect Change In Themselves As Well As In Their Children, Who Accept It And Find In It The Joy As Well As The Pains Ofgrowth, Are Likely To Be The Happiest And Most Confident Parents.

I Like To Compare The Holiday Season With The Way A Child Listens To A Favorite Story. The Pleasure Is In The Familiar Way The Story Begins, The Anticipation Of Familiar Turns It Takes, The Familiar Moments Of Suspense, And The Familiar Climax And Ending.

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