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I Bet You Could Look At Every Single Thing I've Ever Done And Reduce It To That Parenting Schematic.

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I Bet You Could Look At Every Single Thing I've Ever Done And Reduce It To That Parenting Schematic.

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I Chase After Inspiring Stories.

Inspiring Stories

Not Just As An Actress, But On A Human-being Level, I've Experienced Frustration On Many Different Levels. [with My] Career, It Would Be More The Frustration Of Not Always Finding Challenging Material Or Inspiring Material ... [acting Is] Therapeutic For Me. I'm Pretty Accommodating.

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It's Terrifying To Be The Lead. There's A Moment Of Excitement, And Then Pure Terror.

It's A Very Different Thing, Religion And Faith. Religion Is Man-made, It's Man-regulated. And Faith, You Can Define God As You Wish. But I Think They're Two Different Things.

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I Don't Have A Caustic Sense Of Humor. What I Find Funny, That Humor Comes From A Much Gentler Place.

Partying Has Never Been My Thing. I've Been Around Some Wild People. I've Been In The Same Room And Watched Them Experiment, And That's Been Entertaining.

I Rely On My Directors, A Lot. I Love Being Directed.

The Different Tempos And Yeah, It's Cadence. It's The Way She Moves Through Space, It's Gestures.

Esquire's All About Mommy Issues Now. Breastfeeding, Vaccinations, Playdate Etiquette.

I Think That Films About Faith Made For Faith-based Communities Have A Certain Tactic.

There Are Some Times When I Think Acting Can Be A Noble Profession. And When Those Rare Roles Come Along, Like Down To The Bone, You Have The Opportunity To Be Of Service.

I Think All Religions Can Agree On Certain Definitions Of God And Concepts Of God, Like God Being The God Of Love, The Great 'i Am' Energy.

Do I Observe Holy Days And Holidays? Yeah, The Ritual Is Very Important To Me. It's Part Of Being Ukrainian Catholic. So Every Holy Day We're Baking Pierogis And Not Eating Meat.

Whenever I Wore It There Were Some Questions Whether The Outfit Was Just Too Over The Top. I'm Like, "do You Know Who You're Dealing With Here, And Her Eccentricities, Her Style, Her Flair?" These Little Things Were Sometimes Those - I Love It. I Love Having A Real-life Model. But I Also Do Flush It Out With My Own Personal Experiences And My Own Essence, And Hopefully They Mesh Together.

I've Played A Lot Of Mothers In My Movies.

It's Thematic In My Career, If You Look At Most Of My Choices. It Is Some Level Of Exploration Of Maternal Angst And Maternal Heroism.

The Experience Of Giving Birth Itself Made Me Feel More Womanly.

I Spent A Lot Of Time Reading Blogs By Mothers Who Had Children With Varying Degrees Of Neural Dysfunction, From Schizophrenia To All Sorts Of Different Issues. And Honestly, I Don't Think It's Different For Anybody. There's No Right Way To Make Sure Your Child Will Be Emotionally And Mentally Healthier. It's Just Frustrating.

Honestly, I Think A Good Film Is Spiritual, Regardless Of Whether Its Subject Is Faith.

The Limelight Is A Tricky Place, Because You Can't Believe What's Going On Around You. You Stop Observing. You Stop Perceiving. You Stop Extending Yourself, And You Become Isolated.

The Nature Of Evil, The Nature Of It, It Exists. It Exists And I Think Within Us We Have The Tools. If We Have The Will, We Can Combat It. I Think The Power Is Within Us And It Lies In Our Own Conceptualization Of God And Positivity And Compassion And Love.

I Cannot Even Imagine College. I'm White-knuckling It Just Letting My Son Go To Kindergarten For Eight Hours A Day.

No Role Is More Challenging, Rewarding And Inspiring Than My Real-life Role As A Mom And A Wife.

I Was A Ukrainian Folk Dancer In My Teens, And I Toured The Country In 1991, Shortly Before The Break-up Of The Soviet Union.

I Was Very Studious And Square In College.

I Have Tender, Romantic Associations With Upstate New York.

Upstate New York

You Dont Necessarily Have To Be Religious To Pray.

I Just Can't Feel Lukewarm About A Character. I Either Despise Her, Admire Her, Or Don't Understand Her And Want To Understand Her.

I Didn't Grow Up Watching Film But As A Ukrainian-american, Music And Stories And Dance Are Crucial.

Just Because I’m Telling A Story About A Woman Losing Faith Is Not My Rebellion Against What I Grew Up In. If Anything, It Really Affected The Way I Approached The Story, And In Fact, Approach Everything. I Don’t Judge My Characters.

I Listened More Than I Asked. There's A Lot Of Information Online, So Many Youtube Videos, Countless Interviews With All Those Obvious Questions That Were All Answered For Me. I Just Wanted To Absorb Her Essence. I Wanted To See The Details, She Has Such Mad Style. I Just Wanted To See - The Way She Communicates With Her Hands, These Gestures, Her Smile, How She Moves Through Space.

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I Come From A Massive Family, And The Youngest Is Twentysomething Years Younger Than I Am, So I Grew Up With Children.

I Have A Lot Of Frustration With Religion, Organized Religion, Because It's Man-made, Because It's Man-regulated. And It Has Nothing To Do With My Relationship With God.

I'm A Full-time Mom. I've Never Felt As Prepared, As Before Maternity.

I Love To Be Surprised.

Whether We Call It Religion Or Faith, We All Battle For A Balanced Integrated Soul.

I Love Saturday Nights With My Best Friend And A Big Bowl Of Pasta, Wanting A Good Scare, Something That Will Say, 'listen, Your Life Is Not As Bad As This. Your Life Can Be So Much Worse'.

Chekhov, When It's Done Well And You're Ready For It, Can Actually Be Quite Funny.

When You Encounter Sophistication In The Creation Of A Female Character, You Thank The Writers And You Claim It.

Honesty Is Not Synonymous With Truth.

You Know What's More Difficult To Do Organically? Laughing. It's Actually One Of The Hardest Things To Do On Camera.

Sometimes I Attract Roles That Are Necessary Either For Personal Growth Or Enlightenment.

It's Such A Measure Of Your Solidarity With Ed, That When You Would Give Lectures, He Would Be Wearing A Tartan Tie That Matched. And I Demanded That Outfit, I Thought It Was So Punk - Her Long Skirt, She Looked Like A Scottish Queen, So Regal.

To Me Representing Clairvoyance, How Was I Going To Achieve That, How I Was Going To Capture That? For Me, It All Became About Her Gaze And The Way She Takes You In. It's A Rhythmic Thing And A Stillness Thing To Consider But These Are Little Details, Little Nuances. We Were Invited To The Sanctity Of Her Home And There Were Roosters Running Around And She's Screaming, "jackie, Be Quiet!" Even Though She's In The Middle Of The Thing. And These Are The Details That We Wanted To Incorporate Into Our Story.

The Writers Could Always Do An About-face And Change Everything

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You Earn Very Little Money On Independent Films And I'm The Provider For My Home, So I Do Have To Think Of Taking One For The Accountant Time And Again And That Means Studio Pictures.

I'm Thinking About Anything And Everything. I'm Making Stuff Up In My Head, I'm Using Sense Memory. Sometimes When It Doesn't Come And You've Got No Choice Because You're Getting Paid To Do It, You Grasp At Straws. It's Always Easy Now With My Kids. I Just Create Some "what-ifs" In My Head, Something Horrible That Would Devastate Me As A Mother.

Music Is What Our Feelings Sound Like.

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I Don't Necessarily Need Hollywood.

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Asking For Help

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Making A Difference

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Doubt Is The Middle Position Between Knowledge And Ignorance. It Encompasses Cynicism But Also Genuine Questioning.

I Always Thought Uncle Vanya Could Be A Stoned Masterpiece.

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In These Times, In This Harsh, Rude, Warring World That We Live In, Where Most Of The Bloodshed Is 'my God Is Greater Than Your God,' And We're Fighting In The Name Of Our God, We Have To Find A Way To Peaceably Coexist, Spiritually.

We Take A Lot For Granted As Second Wave Feminists, What Our Mothers And Aunts Did For Us.

I Do Love Directing. I'm Only Comfortable Working In The Independent Film Arena For A Very Small Budget Where I Have Creative Control And I Can Put My Stamp On It.

Whether Youre Making A Million Dollar Film Or A $100 Million Film There Is Never Enough Money, Theres Never Enough Time.

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I Am Drawn To Intimate, Often Uncomfortable Portraits Of A Woman Persevering And Awakening.

I'm Incredibly Spiritual. There Are Like Tens Of Thousands Of Denominations; I Don't Fit In Any One Of Those Denominations Comfortably. But I Have A Very Personal Relationship With God.

We're All Sick Of Holy Wars And Bloodshed Because Religion Is Supposed To Give Us Life And A Better Life And Is Supposed To Bring Out Our Best Self. When It Results In Mass Destruction And Hatred And Anxiety, It's The Antithesis I Think Of What Religion Was Designed To Do.

Mass Destruction

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Yeah, I Think It's Like Any God-given Gift. You Writers Have The Gift Of Perception. If You Don't Use It, You're Going To Lose It. And It's The Same Thing With You [lorraine], It's God-given.

I've Always Believed That If You Are Precise In Your Thoughts, It's Not The Lines You Say That Are Important - It's What Exists Between The Lines. What I'm Compelled By Most Is That Transparency Of Thought, What Is Left Unspoken.

In The Quiet Moments, The Discoveries Are Made.

I Cherish Each Director That I Have. I Want To Be Maneuvered Out Of My Comfort Zones. I Don't Have The Time To Prepare.

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There's No Wrong Way To Experience A Film.

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My Father Instilled In Me - Of Utmost Importance And Innate In Me Is The Yearning To Determine For Myself - To Define God, To Define Holiness For Myself.

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I Bring Myself Innately To It, Yeah. I Bring Those Details As Much As I - What I Don't Obsess Over Is, There Are Certain Ways I Might've Pushed It Even A Little More. For Example, [to Warren] Your Accent. I Know Warner Bros. At One Point Came In. I Don't Know, Until You Came To Set, I Know I Wore That Long Tartan Skirt And The Ruffled Blouse For That.

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