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Every Relationship That We Have In Our Lives - Our Contact With Each Person, Place, And Event - Serves A Very Special, If Yet To Be Realized Purpose: They Are Mirrors That Can Serve To Show Us Things About Ourselves That Can Be Realized In No Other Way.

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Every Relationship That We

Guy Finley

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Every Relationship That We Have In Our Lives - Our Contact With Each Person, Place, And Event - Serves A Very Special, If Yet To Be Realized Purpose: They Are Mirrors That Can Serve To Show Us Things About Ourselves That Can Be Realized In No Other Way.

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What Is True Never Fears Investigation; What Is False... Fears Everything.

Disappointment, Discouragement, And Despair Are Nothing But The Bitter Fruit Of An Unfulfilled Expectation Allowed To Live Beyond Its Time.

Resistance To Revelation, Resistance To Becoming Conscious Of All That Dwells Within Us - High And Low, Light And Dark - Is The Anti-change Factor. It Is Also The Mainspring Of All Our Psychological Fears.

Instead Of Always Asking How To Get Others To Approve Of You... Learn To Ask: What Do I Really Want, The Applause Of The Crowds Or To Quietly Have My Own Life?

The Secret Self Knows The Anguish Of Our Attachments And Assures Us That Letting Go Of What We Think We Must Have To Be Happy Is The Same As Letting Go Of Our Unhappiness.

Once You Know What It Means To Choose In Favor Of Yourself, There Is No Power In The Universe That Can Make You Choose Against Yourself.

When You Realize No One Else On This Earth Can Be Like You... That No Other Soul May Know The Beauty, Sorrow, Light And Darkness You Alone Are Given To See... Then You Will, At Last, Be The Fearless Individual Your Heart Of Hearts Has Called You To Be.

Be Still; Quietly Remember The Presence Of And Within Yourself, And You Will Know, Without Thinking, That While All Around You Everything Changes, Within You Lives Something Unchanging.

The Only Reason Your Mind Won't Stop Its Endless Chattering Is Because You Won't Stop Listening To It!

In Spite Of How Things May Appear To Us, We Are Never Trapped By Where We Are. The Trap Is Always Who We Are

Real Freedom Isn't Subject To How Others Estimate Our Value; It Is In Realizing That None Are Free Who Find Their Sense Of Worth Wondering How Others Measure Their Lives.

Each Time That You Don't Know You Are Choosing, Then Of Those Choices You Are Not The Chooser.

Every Truth Ever Discovered -- Each New Light That Will Ever Burn Bright -- Already Exists In Our Consciousness. All We Will Ever Know And Share About Love, Humility, Compassion, And Sacrifice -- The Secrets That Will Reveal And Then Resolve Old Sorrows -- Awaits Us Within Ourselves. Hidden In This Truth Is Our Great Promise, Both As Individuals And As A Race Of Beings.

Any Conclusion You Reach About Yourself Has To Be An Unseen Limitation Because There's Always More To See.

Instead Of Always Asking Yourself How To Clear Up Your Mental Fog, Learn To Ask: "can Confusion Know Anything About Clarity?"

The More Time We Spend Considering The Shortcomings Of Others, The Smaller A Person We Become.

Learn To Be One With Who You Are In Reality, And The Waves Of A Thousand Passing Worlds Cannot Wash You Away.

Getting Stressed And Struggling To Change The Outcome Of Any Past Event Is Like Arguing With An Echo To Make It See Your Point Of View.

What You Don't Want To Know About Yourself Wants To Be Known, Which Is Why It Keeps 'showing Up' At Your Door Unannounced!

I Am Willing To Walk Toward, And Then Through, Whatever May Be Seen In The Moment As Being Greater Than Myself.

We Need To See, And Agree That What We Seek Already Lives Within Us, And We Within It. Now We Know Our One Great Task: Watch For Whatever Promises Us Freedom, And Then Quietly, Consciously Refuse To See Ourselves Through The Eyes Of What We Know Is Incomplete. Then We Live Wholeness Itself, Instead Of Spending Our Lives Looking For It.

Know That Everything Is In Perfect Order Whether You Understand It Or Not.

Who You Really Are, Your True Nature, Is No More Tied To The Kind Of Person You've Been Than The Wind Is Tied To The Skies Through Which It Moves. Your Past Is Just That, The Past, A Place Within Your Psyche With No More Reality To It Than A Picture Of A Castle On A Postcard Is Made From Stone. You Have A Destination Far Beyond Where You Find Yourself Standing Today.

You Have A Destination Far Beyond Where You Find Yourself Standing Today.

Finding Yourself

Psychologically Speaking, What Is True Requires No Protection, And Never Becomes Negative When Challenged. On The Other Hand, What Is False Almost Never Stops Trying To Protect Itself, Which It Does By Finding Fault With Whatever Or Whoever Challenges The False Image Behind Which It Always Hides.

Eventually, We Reach The Point Where We Start To Realize That We Are Not Going To Find Peace, Contentment, Happiness, Strength, Fearlessness - All Of The Things That In Our Heart Of Hearts We Wish We Had - Outside Of Us.

Spend Everyday Casual, But Industrious Every Moment Alert, But Relaxed.

The Deepest Parts Of You Know That If Freedom From Fear Was As Easy As 'creating A New Reality' For Yourself, Then You Would Already Be The Fearless Person You Know In Your Heart That You're Meant To Be.

See That Any Time You Feel Pained Or Defeated, It Is Only Because You Insist On Clinging To What Doesn't Work. Dare To Let Go And You Won't Lose A Thing Except For A Punishing Idea.

Instead Of Always Asking Yourself Why So-and-so Acts This Or That Way, Learn To Ask: "what's Inside Of Me That Wants To Hurt Itself Over How Anyone Else Acts?"

Asking Yourself Why

What Good Is Any Feeling We May Have About Ourselves, If It Only Lasts As Long As Others Agree To It?

A Crisis Is A Close Encounter Of The Third Kind.

Stop Looking For Permission To Be Yourself. The True Individual Is No More Concerned Over What Others May Think Of Him Or Her Than Is The Sun Troubled By People Complaining That It's Too Warm, Or That It Shines Too Bright!

Life Isn't A Race To Win, It's A School For Our Higher Education.

Ours Is The Task Of Discovering That Our True Nature Has Nothing To Fear.

Real Love Cannot Be Deceived Because It Wants Nothing Outside Of Itself

We Can Only Begin To Change The World Around Us When We Are Willing To Become A Conscious Part Of All That Is Changing.

Changing The World

Work To Connect Yourself To The Allness Of Life -- Instead Of Identifying With The Smallness Of It -- And You'll Awaken To A Greatness Already Living Within You That Is No More Bothered By The Little Things In Life Than A Mountain Is Made Miserable By The Rain That Falls Upon It.

Do The Moment-to-moment Work Of Dropping Anything That Wants To Drag You Down, And Reality Itself Will See To It That You Rise.

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