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As I Said In The Times And Will Say Again Here, I Do, However, Believe That Most Members Of Our Community - As Well As The Majority Of Heterosexuals - Cannot And Do Not Choose The Gender Of The Persons With Whom They Seek To Have Intimate Relationships Because, Unlike Me, They Are Only Attracted To One Sex.

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As I Said In The Times And Will Say Again Here, I Do, However, Believe That Most Members Of Our Community - As Well As The Majority Of Heterosexuals - Cannot And Do Not Choose The Gender Of The Persons With Whom They Seek To Have Intimate Relationships Because, Unlike Me, They Are Only Attracted To One Sex.

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