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Another Thing You End Up Doing When You Get Older, Is You Spend So Much Time Sort Of Trying Desperately To Keep From Just Looking Just A Little Older. You're Just Constantly Putting Stuff On Your Face And Having Things Removed From Yourself And Opening Up Copies Of "vogue" So That You Can Find New Ways To Throw Whatever Money You've Managed To Save Into The Arms Of Some Doctor Who Has Just Come Up With A New Way Of Lasering Your Face That Feels Like Electroshock And All These Things.

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Another Thing You End Up Doing When You Get Older, Is You Spend So Much Time Sort Of Trying Desperately To Keep From Just Looking Just A Little Older. You're Just Constantly Putting Stuff On Your Face And Having Things Removed From Yourself And Opening Up Copies Of "vogue" So That You Can Find New Ways To Throw Whatever Money You've Managed To Save Into The Arms Of Some Doctor Who Has Just Come Up With A New Way Of Lasering Your Face That Feels Like Electroshock And All These Things.

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What Will Happen To Sex After Liberation? Frankly, I Don't Know. It Is A Great Mystery To All Of Us.

If Your Husband Is Cheating On You With A Carhop, Get Meryl Streep To Play You. You'll Feel Much Better.

You Get To Be A Certain Age And You Start Reading Stuff About The Age You Are, And You Think, What Is Wrong With These People Who Are Writing These Books? Do They Not Have Necks?

With Any Child Entering Adolescence, One Hunts For Signs Of Health, Is Desperate For The Smallest Indication That The Child's Problems Will Never Be Important Enough For A Television Movie.

I Think You Often Have That Sense When You Write--that If You Can Spot Something In Yourself And Set It Down On Paper, You're Free Of It. And You're Not, Of Course; You've Just Managed To Set It Down On Paper, That's All.

To State The Obvious, Romantic Comedies Have To Be Funny And They Have To Be Romantic. But One Of The Most Important Things, For Me Anyway, Is That They Be About Two Strong People Finding Their Way To Love.

Above All, Be The Heroine Of Your Life, Not The Victim.

We All Look Good For Our Age. Except For Our Necks.

Washington Is A City Of Locker-room Boys, And All The Old, Outmoded Notions Apply: Men And Women Are Ushered To Separate Rooms After Dinner, Sex Is Dirty, And They Are Still Serving Onion-soup Dip.

The Function Of A Blog Is On Some Level To Start A Conversation That You're Not Involved In Any More Because You've Already Had Your Say. That Thing Of Coming Right Off The News - Did You See What I Saw This Morning, Can You Believe It? - Has A Kind Of Fun Appeal.

Reading Makes Me Feel I've Accomplished Something, Learned Something, Become A Better Person. ... Reading Is Bliss.

My Closet Is Full Of Sad Little Scripts That Didn't Get Made That Have Sad Endings. It's Very Hard To Get A Movie Made That Has A Sad Ending.

I Have Made A Lot Of Mistakes Falling In Love, And Regretted Most Of Them, But Never The Potatoes That Went With Them.

That [photographs] Disturb Readers Is Exactly As It Should Be: That's Why Photojournalism Is Often More Powerful Than Written Journalism.

Verbal Ability Is A Highly Overrated Thing In A Guy, And It's Our Pathetic Need For It That Gets Us Into So Much Trouble.

I Always Say That A Successful Parent Is One Who Raises A Child So That They Can Pay For Their Own Psychoanalysis.

Reading Is The Unbelievably Healthy Way My Attention Deficit Disorder Medicates Itself. Reading Is Escape, And The Opposite Of Escape; It's A Way To Make Contact With Reality After A Day Of Making Things Up.

It's Always A Shock To The People Who Run Studios When A Movie That Is For Women Is A Hit. They Have An Infinite Capacity To Be Shocked.

Getting Older Means You Don't Have To Shave Your Legs Anymore.

Sometimes I Believe That Some People Are Better At Love Than Others, And Sometimes I Believe That Everyone Is Faking It.

When You Realize You Want To Spend The Rest Of Your Life With Somebody, You Want The Rest Of Your Life To Start As Soon As Possible.

I Am Continually Fascinated At The Difficulty Intelligent People Have In Distinguishing What Is Controversial From What Is Merely Offensive.

In Fact, Looking Back, It Seems To Me That I Was Clueless Until I Was About 50-years-old.

So Many Of The Conscious And Unconscious Ways Men And Women Treat Each Other Have To Do With Romantic And Sexual Fantasies That Are Deeply Ingrained, Not Just In Society But In Literature. The Women's Movement May Manage To Clean Up The Mess In Society, But I Don't Know Whether It Can Ever Clean Up The Mess In Our Minds.

What I Love About Cooking Is That After A Hard Day, There Is Something Comforting About The Fact That If You Melt Butter And Add Flour And Then Hot Stock, It Will Get Thick!

If There Is A Nora Ephron Signature Anything It Is That There's Slightly Too Much Food. I Have A Friend Whose Mantra Is: You Must Choose. And I Believe The Exact Opposite: I Think You Should Always Have At Least Four Desserts That Are Kind Of Fighting With Each Other.

It's Always Hard To Remember Love - Years Pass And You Say To Yourself, Was I Really In Love Or Was I Just Kidding Myself? Was I Really In Love Or Was I Just Pretending He Was The Man Of My Dreams? Was I Really In Love Or Was I Just Desperate?

I Live In New York City. I Could Never Live Anywhere Else. The Events Of September 11 Forced Me To Confront The Fact That No Matter What, I Live Here And Always Will. One Of My Favorite Things About New York Is That You Can Pick Up The Phone And Order Anything And Someone Will Deliver It To You. Once I Lived For A Year In Another City, And Almost Every Waking Hour Of My Life Was Spent Going To Stores, Buying Things, Loading Them Into The Car, Bringing Them Home, Unloading Them, And Carrying Them Into The House. How Anyone Gets Anything Done In These Places Is A Mystery To Me.

[wellesley College] Is About As Meaningful To The Educational Process In America As A Perfume Factory Is To The National Economy.

I Don't Care Who You Are. When You Sit Down To Write The First Page Of Your Screenplay, In Your Head, You're Also Writing Your Oscar Acceptance Speech.

And Then The Dreams Break Into A Million Tiny Pieces. The Dream Dies. Which Leaves You With A Choice: You Can Settle For Reality, Or You Can Go Off, Like A Fool, And Dream Another Dream.

Whenever Someone Says The Words 'our Friendship Is More Important Than This,' Watch Out, Because It Almost Never Is.

I Am Living In The Google Years, No Question Of That. And There Are Advantages To It. When You Forget Something, You Can Whip Out Your Iphone And Go To Google. The Senior Moment Has Become The Google Moment, And It Has A Much Nicer, Hipper, Younger, More Contemporary Sound, Doesn't It? By Handling The Obligations Of The Search Mechanism, You Almost Prove You Can Keep Up.... You Can't Retrieve You Life (unless You're On Wikipedia, In Which Case You Can Retrieve An Inaccurate Version Of It).

Here Are Some Questions I Am Constantly Noodling Over: Do You Splurge Or Do You Hoard? Do You Live Every Day As If It's Your Last, Or Do You Save Your Money On The Chance You'll Live Twenty More Years? Is Life Too Short, Or Is It Going To Be Too Long? Do You Work As Hard As You Can, Or Do You Slow Down To Smell The Roses? And Where Do Carbohydrates Fit Into All This? Are We Really All Going To Spend Our Last Years Avoiding Bread, Especially Now That Bread In American Is So Unbelievable Delicious? And What About Chocolate?

You Can't Retrieve You Life (unless You're On Wikipedia, In Which Case You Can Retrieve An Inaccurate Version Of It).

The Hardest Thing About Writing Is Writing.

You Don't Really Have To Believe What You Write In A Blog For More Than The Moment When You're Writing It. You Don't Bring The Same Solemnity That You Would Bring To An Actual Essay.

One Of The Few Advantages To Not Being Beautiful Is That One Usually Gets Better-looking As One Gets Older. I Am, In Fact, At This Very Moment Gaining My Looks.

You Can't Meet Someone Until You Become What You're Becoming.

I’m Really Not Interested In Women As Victims. Look At Me, I Get The Last Laugh ‘cause I Get To Be Funny About It.

In My Sex Fantasy, Nobody Ever Loves Me For My Mind.

You Do Get To A Certain Point In Life Where You Have To Realistically, I Think, Understand That The Days Are Getting Shorter, And You Can't Put Things Off Thinking You'll Get To Them Someday. If You Really Want To Do Them, You Better Do Them. There Are Simply Too Many People Getting Sick, And Sooner Or Later You Will. So I'm Very Much A Believer In Knowing What It Is That You Love Doing So You Can Do A Great Deal Of It.

Your Education Is A Dress Rehearsal For A Life That Is Yours To Lead.

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