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A Woman Should Never, Never, Never Be Financially Dependent To Anyone, Especially A Man, Because The Minute You Were Dependent, You Could Be Abused.

-Sue Grafton

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Sue Grafton

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A Woman Should Never, Never, Never Be Financially Dependent To Anyone, Especially A Man, Because The Minute You Were Dependent, You Could Be Abused.

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