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When A Person Should Be Spoken With, And You Don't Speak With Them, You Lose Them. When A Person Shouldn't Be Spoken With And You Speak To Them, You Waste Your Breath. The Wise Do Not Lose People, Nor Do They Waste Their Breath.

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When A Person Should Be Spoken With, And You Don't Speak With Them, You Lose Them. When A Person Shouldn't Be Spoken With And You Speak To Them, You Waste Your Breath. The Wise Do Not Lose People, Nor Do They Waste Their Breath.

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