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So, How Can We Live In Joy - And How Can We Know That We're Supposed To Live In Joy The Way People Tell Us To - When We're Believing Thoughts That Bring On Sadness And Frustration And Anger And Alienation And Loneliness? When We're Believing Those Thoughts, We Think That's The World, Rather Than What We're Believing About The World. We're Like Lost Little Children.

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So, How Can We

Byron Katie

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So, How Can We Live In Joy - And How Can We Know That We're Supposed To Live In Joy The Way People Tell Us To - When We're Believing Thoughts That Bring On Sadness And Frustration And Anger And Alienation And Loneliness? When We're Believing Those Thoughts, We Think That's The World, Rather Than What We're Believing About The World. We're Like Lost Little Children.

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