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We Only Regard Those Unions As Real Examples Of Love And Real Marriages In Which A Fixed And Unalterable Decision Has Been Taken. If Men Or Women Contemplate An Escape, They Do Not Collect All Their Powers For The Task. In None Of The Serious And Important Tasks Of Life Do We Arrange Such A "getaway." We Cannot Love And Be Limited.

-Alfred Adler

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We Only Regard Those

Alfred Adler

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We Only Regard Those Unions As Real Examples Of Love And Real Marriages In Which A Fixed And Unalterable Decision Has Been Taken. If Men Or Women Contemplate An Escape, They Do Not Collect All Their Powers For The Task. In None Of The Serious And Important Tasks Of Life Do We Arrange Such A "getaway." We Cannot Love And Be Limited.

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